how do you cheer yourself up on a bad day?

[Longhorn]

Sushi and frozen yogurt

Omg totally twins

[dyresand]

do things to montage music

[Twisted]

Muse on the size of the cosmos - its scale, its majesty, its age, its density. Consider our place in it, this tiny blue rock neatly packed away in one little corner of one average-sized galaxy.
Feel scared. Feel unburdened. Feel better.

Smoke weed, but just a little.

Do both at once.

Report on your findings.

Lol thinking about the cosmos really scares me,i cant sleep at night when i start thinking about them,I feel that it scares me more than it makes me feel better :p

i never smoked weed? how does it feel? i've always been told that weed is bad for health :p

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I find laughter is one of the best ways to make myself feel a bit better.

Also, if there is a way you can help others, this can be a great way to feel positive. I'm speaking as a severely depressed person who died inside years ago and is dragging himself through life reluctantly. It can sometimes be the only way I can feel any better. It could be through voluntary work, helping friends or family... anything like that. Helping others has a way of shifting the focus off yourself.

laughter is a good way to feel better but its hard to laugh when you are sad

Yes helping others feels good but i feel like i help other too much and sometimes i wish i was more selfish,people take advantage of my kindness and it makes me sad

Don't be sad Rob,you're a good guy,most people are not as helpful as you are

[KUSA]

The quickest way to get your mind off of it is a heavy dose of porn and masturbation.

[Twisted]

I don't have a partner to have a sex with :p I sing a lot in private and sometimes in public i don't care if anyone's watching,i will try to take on a smallish task but well its hard i always go for the tougher tasks and i fail badly in them,i feel like a big loser and i am a loser so far in life

First order of business is to realize that even if you feel like you've failed so far, that doesn't mean you'll always fail.

Second is to understand that if you recognize that you pick up big tasks and don't handle them well, then you're halfway to solving the problem.

Without knowing the specifics of your life, here's something that helps me:

I take a piece of paper and divide it into 2 or 3 long sections and title them, " Tolerations," "Next Step," and "Time to Solve".

The Tolerations heading is where I list all the things about my life that are irritating me that I haven't fixed because of procrastination or because I'm just "tolerating" the hardship.

The "Next Step" heading is where I list next to each toleration what the next step in fixing it will be.

In the "Time to Solve" heading, I list how long I estimate each thing to take.

Now you have a more comprehensive to-do list. You can further sub-divide it out by taking another piece of paper and writing about the parts involved in each toleration.

This sounds incredibly silly, but what was even sillier to me was to find out how many things I was tolerating that really only took 5 minutes to fix. And crossing things off the list with a fat highlighter was really satisfying. Plus, when you have a plan, you get distracted less easily.

So say you want to tackle a huge(ish) project like cleaning out a closet. Instead of getting lost in the morass, you could survey the closet and write out a plan. List ALL of the things you'll need to get the job done so that you don't leave it half-finished (like "bags for donations", and "boxes to put stuff in" and "packing tape"). Then gather some granola bars, some water, and all your supplies in a neat area and start. Keep the list next to you when you start the project so that if you do run across a supply you need but don't have, you can quickly write it down and get it SOON.

This is how I tackle big baking projects: list, then write out a plan for when things will be baking during the day (some cakes or cookies bake at the same temp, so you can double up!) then set all the measured ingredients out BEFORE I start so that I can make sure I have everything I need. I keep white boards around the house or chalkboards so I can easily write down shopping lists.

I'm finding that this method works well for life: I can create a plan for school, or my local atheist group, etc. Even if nothing gets done immediately, the plan is there, and we determine what factors we're waiting on or what the next step will be. It's very helpful, and makes for a much less stressful time.

I will start following your advice ASAP,i write things down but i usually don't follow up with them i go back to my old procrastinating routine,i am pretty efficient at doing everything in my life except studying lol,i used to be good at studies but i feel that i have chosen the wrong major,i don't have much interest in it and don't understand the concepts in it,that makes things super hard for me to study and when you don't understand something you have no motivation to do it,I have put a lot of effort in my studies in the past but none of my efforts have been fruitful,i cant see a bright future ahead of me

thanks for your comprehensive advice and your concern i will make a detailed plan this time and try focusing on one thing at a time,my span of focus is very short,my mind is distracted easily,another problem is that there is burden of proof on my shoulders,i expect a lot from myself and i cant achieve it so there is always a feeling of guilt inside me

sorry for throwing all my problems at you,i hope you wont mind

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The quickest way to get your mind off of it is a heavy dose of porn and masturbation.

hahahaha already been there

[Kitty Galore]

TSQ- brilliant idea! I love it.

I tend to watch a comedy and eat something sweet. Sometimes a nap. I stopped smoking weed, but I used to do that too. They aren't the healthiest of choices, I know. Just answering the question.

[SteelCurtain]

Exercise. Nothing beats picking up moderately heavy shit, moving it around a bit, and putting it back down. Getting a domers vein running down my arm, watching my heart beat in it while I suck wind.

Playing GTA online, crushing n00bs with my car. Or mowing down idiots in a deathmatch.

Texting friends and living vicariously through them.

Youtuberbating.

[ignoramus]

I don't really get "down". It happened for so long as a kid with a pchyco dad, that I'm normalised.
I can get excited, but not "down" over little things... My normalisation puts it into perspective almost instantly.

[Iroscato]

We all have our own internal failsafes, but when those fail, it's always better to seek (healthy) external ones. Just keep swimming...and yes, I just quoted Finding Nemo

[thesummerqueen]

TSQ- brilliant idea! I love it.

I tend to watch a comedy and eat something sweet. Sometimes a nap. I stopped smoking weed, but I used to do that too. They aren't the healthiest of choices, I know. Just answering the question.

I have a long history with sucking at things (as opposed to joyfully sucking things) so I unfortunately have a few tricks out of self preservation.