My pathetic whining about how I want a relationship

[Cato]

...it's the absolute bane of my existence, that I don't get to experience a fun life, like so many other people do.

I sure hope I'm wrong, but my (former user's name not to be mentioned) 'anhedonia' sensors just went into alarm.

[Edwardo Piet]

I think pink hat and I have established that making friends would be a more important pursuit anyways.

Ah cool I only read the OP so far... currently worried about my physical health.

[Redbeard The Pink]

I'm not in school. To be honest I hate college. I got mostly Ds in high school, so no college will allow me to either be A) a non degree seeking student without access to the dorms B) one of those horrible community colleges where everyone commutes to, where no one actually becomes friends. It's pretty much the only thing I want, is to go to some sort of dormitory or something. All I want is to have some fun like right fucking now, I don't give a single flying fuck about my stupid future. Life is horrible misery, I don't want it to be the same down the road, but with everyone in my age range old an unattractive. I'm 21, this is the only time of my life where the people around my age will be attractive. Once I'm too old for anyone to be attractive, there will be no point in wanting to have non platonic relationships anymore anyways. I tried going to college 3 times, all I ever did was become so uncomfortable, people would avoid me and I would sit around every day, thinking of ways I would inflict pain on them.

Fuck, dude.


At this point, I really don't think I should be advising you to even be in the same room with anyone who isn't a trained professional, presuming you're being honest and not just being overly dramatic for the internet. If you really hate everyone and everything and everything anybody does, then being single is the lowest and least of your problems, and I fail to see how it even occurs to you in the midst of the rest of that. How do you expect to embark on a relationship (or even a annoyed acquaintance) if you literally can't look at or talk to people without yelling at them for having fun or thinking up ways to hurt them?


Also, I don't know where you're coming from with this "only people in their 20s are attractive" shit. I just don't.

[DespondentFishdeathMasochismo]

[Edwardo Piet]

I don't get it. What's so hard about getting into a relationship? It's as easy as breathing.

I wish.

Although really I'm mostly referring to sex.

[Aoi Magi]

That is your problem right there, 99% interactions online? That just means you are afraid of real life scenarios. You need to fight that fear yourself, others cannot help you. But as I said, just put yourself in social situations more often, and try to join group conversations. For example, if I am out on a run and come across a group of people chatting, if they were discussing something within my scope of knowledge, I'd throw in my two cents. That'd be a quick way to get into a conversation and make some acquaintances.

[DespondentFishdeathMasochismo]

That is your problem right there, 99% interactions online? That just means you are afraid of real life scenarios. You need to fight that fear yourself, others cannot help you. But as I said, just put yourself in social situations more often, and try to join group conversations.  For example, if I am out on a run and come across a group of people chatting, if they were discussing something within my scope of knowledge, I'd throw in my two cents. That'd be a quick way to get into a conversation and make some acquaintances.

I don't know how to put myself in "real life scenarios". I walk outside all the time, like I've said. I wish that there were situations that involved sitting down and having real talks with people. That's really all I do online, in person you have to get past a million barriers of small talk before that happens. You say put myself in social situations, you have no idea that there's literally no way I can do that. Join a group conversation? Where on earth do you think I can just walk up to a group of people and start talking? I feel uncomfortable at shows, if you did that to someone in a group table at a cafe or something they're with their friends. Just walking around on the street no one is saying anything.

These social interactions that everyone thinks are so easy, it's so fucking aggravating. Why is that stuff so illusive? Can you explain that to me, before I have to hear the "if you're tired of being on the internet, just get off the internet and find someone to talk to" again. Do you have any idea how many times I've heard that? It's not frustrating, it's fucking painful and tearing apart my fucking psyche, trying to understand just why the fuck people think it's that simple. It's not. Do you understand what I am fucking telling you? It is unequivocally NOT.

[KUSA]

Alright Despo,

Let's make things easier on you. You say that you have no way of meeting people. There are limitless dating websites out there that can help you out with that. Have you tried one of them yet?

Yep. I said that in that post you didn't read right above you.

My suggestion to you then is to get really good at masturbating.

[dyresand]

That is your problem right there, 99% interactions online? That just means you are afraid of real life scenarios. You need to fight that fear yourself, others cannot help you. But as I said, just put yourself in social situations more often, and try to join group conversations.  For example, if I am out on a run and come across a group of people chatting, if they were discussing something within my scope of knowledge, I'd throw in my two cents. That'd be a quick way to get into a conversation and make some acquaintances.

I don't know how to put myself in "real life scenarios". I walk outside all the time, like I've said. I wish that there were situations that involved sitting down and having real talks with people. That's really all I do online, in person you have to get past a million barriers of small talk before that happens. You say put myself in social situations, you have no idea that there's literally no way I can do that. Join a group conversation? Where on earth do you think I can just walk up to a group of people and start talking? I feel uncomfortable at shows, if you did that to someone in a group table at a cafe or something they're with their friends. Just walking around on the street no one is saying anything.

These social interactions that everyone thinks are so easy, it's so fucking aggravating. Why is that stuff so illusive? Can you explain that to me, before I have to hear the "if you're tired of being on the internet, just get off the internet and find someone to talk to" again. Do you have any idea how many times I've heard that? It's not frustrating, it's fucking painful and tearing apart my fucking psyche, trying to understand just why the fuck people think it's that simple. It's not. Do you understand what I am fucking telling you? It is unequivocally NOT.

Unless you want a long distance date i am free

[rexbeccarox]

I'm putting my mean hat back on now. This is fucking ridiculous.

I have no idea why any of you are still indulging this whiny, spoiled brat of a troll who comes here asking for advice, only to shoot every bit of the good down. He's taken little nibbles all over the board, saying things like, "I hope you die" because of one kudos to a post he didn't agree with, and gone on so many arbitrary tirades and rants against established members and staff members, I wouldn't be able to count if I tried.

OP, you're a spoiled brat. That is your problem. From what I've read, you've been given everything, including an apartment at age 21, with absolutely no direction in life (you realize most people have to work and pay for things like apartments, right?). Learn to be a decent member of society or don't. Your choice.