Monogamous or not.

[MJ the Skeptical]

1) You can, but it is easy like you state? Fuck no, that's anecdotal shit and the fact that you can't even concede that is pathetic. Plus location wasn't the only factor I brought up, try again sweetheart.

2) It's not only about location...fucking shit...You completely jumped the shark, go argue with someone your own intellectual caliber, perhaps a fire hydrant or a feminist.

1) You can find non monogamous women on here, on various websites, if you can't find non monogamous women online you're bad at using the internet.  I stand by that.

2) Yeh you didn't just say location, you said it depends on age, gender variables like that, but variables like that don't matter, you could be a 100 year old hermaphrodite and still be able to use the internet to find non monogamous women, they might not be attracted to you but you can still find them.

1) Holy shit, you don't get to speak to everybody's difficulty level when it comes to finding what they want just because you think it's easily to get what you want.

2) So you accept that there are reasons why it's not easy to find what you want but instead of concede your flawed position you just bypass it by saying it's easy anyway. Good call pal...

[The Viking]

If I am in a relationship - I'm utterly monogamous.

If not...

Well...

Hello, ladies.

[MJ the Skeptical]

If you're a non-monogamous guy, you're basically spraying pussy repellent on yourself, it is what it is.

This is what you said, and you accuse me of being a putting out "fucking idiotic generalizations".

And you try and twist it to make it seem like I said if you're non monogamous then you're around tons of vagina as you put it.

It depends on the definition of monogamy, but either way a non monogamous person is either having 

1) Sex with one person and leaving themselves available to have sex with others
2) Sex with multiple people.

And in either one of those scenarios they're having sex with at least as many people as a monogamous person.

And I get what you mean sort of, you're saying some women are repelled by non monogamy.  But you're just communicating that by making "fucking stupid generalizations" as you would say.

It's not a generalization that most women are not attracted to anything other than monogamy. Give me a fucking break with this shit...

[MJ the Skeptical]

You even admit if people go around saying they don't fall under the strict monogamous label it's not going to be easy to find like minded people, as is such the case on the internet. 

Yes but you don't understand what I mean by that.

I'll give you an example of what I mean.

If I go to a nightclub and I go around introducing myself as being non monogamous and talking about it constantly I imagine the majority of women will be repelled because they will wonder why I'm talking about this subject of having sex with no commitment.

Because for better or for worse that isn't how sex happens.  People don't go around discussing their exact likes and preferences, they tend to talk and joke then kiss then heavy petting and so on and so on.

Guys don't go around saying "Hey do you like penis in your vagina?" Because even though the girl most likely does like that, the question itself will put her off the act of having a penis inside her vagina.

Much in the same way going around saying "Hi I'm non monogamous and my name's Paul how are you?"  Is most likely to put most women off even if they are actually non monogamous in their actions.

No one said you go around talking about it, that's so flippant to diatribe on that. If the situation arises where the woman wants to know if you are monogamous or not, you can be rest-assured most women (even if you have been dating them) will not like that aspect about you. There's not really much else to add here on the subject anymore.

[BrokenQuill92]

I'm not against polyamory I'm just against assholes who think bi means I'm up for anything. Besides I highly doubt I could find more than one person that will put up with my brand of crazy. So I guess I'm monogamous by default but not against polyfidelious relations.

[Whateverist]

For me, definitely.

[rexbeccarox]

I've been in several monogamous relationships, and a couple of open ones... I don't really have a preference, per se, but I do like the idea of sharing my life with one (ahem... specific) person. Sex is kind of different in my view, but I haven't had sex in about two years, so I might be a little skewed. Like others, I think open communication and like-minds are more important than anything else. If that (ahem... specific) person wanted to have sex with, say, a dude because she was missing it, I'd be jealous, for sure, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker by any means. Just no lying, and I'm good.

[Whateverist]

Yep, definitely either monogamous or not. That's me.

[robvalue]

The idea of an open relationship was something that used to make me cringe. I'm finding that I'm not getting that kind of emotional reaction when I think about it now. I'm not convinced it's something I would ever actually want though.

I haven't put a lot of though into it over the years. I've severely struggled to get just one person interested enough in me to have a relationship, and I've never had the opportunity to have casual sex. I guess I've always felt it's irrelevant as no one else is going to be interested in me anyway. So due to lack of practical experience, it's hard for me to imagine what an open relationship would actually be like.

At the moment it would be irrelevant, even if I started an open relationship today, I'd still be sitting here on my own each day too tired to do much. I've never been the kind of person who would/could go out looking for casual sex, and it never comes to me, so it's an option that makes no difference. There is one difference though, which is that my wife would kick me out. So I'd actually have less (no) relationships with women. I'm very happy as I am, and we have a wonderful relationship, so it would be insane to do this, even as an experiment. If Emma did suggest it or was up for it, I still don't know if I would do it. I think probably not, at least at the moment.

[Whateverist]

I have no desire for an open relationship either. Intellectually it makes sense. When I was in my mid-twenties my first wife and I signed on for that. We lasted three years. I didn't like it. At all. That really surprised me. So much for free will, hey? Turns out you really can't will what you'd like to like.