Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...

[Joods]

Well, tbh, I don't like seeing myself either lol

[Joods]

CIJS -

If you say you're going to do something, do it. Don't give out false hope only to reneg on it. I mean, really, that's just being a tease and getting hopes up. I was anticipating a good thing to happen and now I've been let down.

I'm so disappointed.

[Thumpalumpacus]

Or maybe my wife is fucking off her head.

dingdingdingding

[Thumpalumpacus]

If i could. Unfortunately the rest of my family works, meaning i am stuck looking after the younger two kids, as otherwise we'd be breaking the law. I'm pretty much stuck at home when not at college, and that's not even considering that i can't fund doing anything because i can't get a job, and my parents hate giving me money.

I know what I think about what seems to be your situation, but I don't think you're looking for advice here, so I'll stay quiet.

Best wishes, J.

[Excited Penguin]

Ladies....I just can't work this one out????? The Mrs is horrified if anyone see's her in her knickers and bra, but she quite happily goes swimming with a bikini on. What is the difference? The same amount of flesh is on show. Maybe it's me I don't know.

It's just the things we associate with the two. It's not just her.

You see strange women in bikinis all the time when it's appropriate. You generally don't see people in their underwear unless you're close with them or in intimate situations.

[Jello]

If i could. Unfortunately the rest of my family works, meaning i am stuck looking after the younger two kids, as otherwise we'd be breaking the law. I'm pretty much stuck at home when not at college, and that's not even considering that i can't fund doing anything because i can't get a job, and my parents hate giving me money.

I know what I think about what seems to be your situation, but I don't think you're looking for advice here, so I'll stay quiet.

Best wishes, J.

Advice is always useful, i only meant that i don't see how i can do much else at the moment, so if anything, advice is really helpful here

[J a c k]

CIJS...
I wish I could, but I can't. I'm so sorry. It's too late for that. I'm looking after myself now. I want solid things. I want happiness. I don't want to have to try too hard. I want natural. I want realness. I want tangible companionship. A decade with you promises that I will always love you, just not the way you want me to. I've moved on. I have decided to walk away from anything that will make me stretch myself so hard that it transforms me into something I'm not. I'm walking away from anything that seems too unreal, or wistful. I'm stepping away from anything or anyone who will contribute to my loneliness. Ten years of loneliness is enough evidence that I can't go back. I really do hope you find happiness and that you, too, can stop stretching yourself to be someone that you are not. You deserve it. I just want to be happy. I know it's selfish. I don't care. What's wrong with being a little selfish sometimes? I've invested my life in pleasing others, fighting against storms to win their love, trying, hoping, waiting, just being there to make others happy. I don't want to do that anymore. At least not as the main dish. I want to relax and enjoy. I want to watch things unfold on their own with out having to climb mountains to earn it. If I end up empty handed, so be it. I'm not afraid of silence. I've learned that loneliness is worse than solitude. I'll keep my solitude and give you back that loneliness. I have no use for it anymore.

[Losty]

CIJS....yea sometimes I'm my own worst enemy

[Kernel Sohcahtoa]

A message to a fellow co-worker:

You asked me how to handle customers who are behaving unproductively and rudely.  To be completely honest, I’ve heard too many people say that they just have to take it and accept the unpleasant reality of being powerless to say no.  But, IMO, it doesn’t have to be that way.  The first step in confidently asserting yourself is to dig deep into your heart and uncover your most cherished principles and values.  Once, you’ve done this, then you’ve got to embody them via your behavior: the louder they become, then the softer you must speak; the more they condescend and attack, then the more calm and curious you must be.  Be who you are and don’t be a product of their negativity. Regardless of the outcome, if you have embodied what you stand for and have done your best to constructively handle the situation, then that is all anyone can ask: you have no control over their behavior; you can only control yourself.  In essence, by behaving in this manner, you are saying no to unproductive behavior in a very powerful and effective way.

[Jello]

CIJS...
I wish I could, but I can't. I'm so sorry. It's too late for that. I'm looking after myself now. I want solid things. I want happiness. I don't want to have to try too hard. I want natural. I want realness. I want tangible companionship. A decade with you promises that I will always love you, just not the way you want me to. I've moved on. I have decided to walk away from anything that will make me stretch myself so hard that it transforms me into something I'm not. I'm walking away from anything that seems too unreal, or wistful. I'm stepping away from anything or anyone who will contribute to my loneliness. Ten years of loneliness is enough evidence that I can't go back. I really do hope you find happiness and that you, too, can stop stretching yourself to be someone that you are not. You deserve it. I just want to be happy. I know it's selfish. I don't care. What's wrong with being a little selfish sometimes? I've invested my life in pleasing others, fighting against storms to win their love, trying, hoping, waiting, just being there to make others happy. I don't want to do that anymore. At least not as the main dish. I want to relax and enjoy. I want to watch things unfold on their own with out having to climb mountains to earn it. If I end up empty handed, so be it. I'm not afraid of silence. I've learned that loneliness is worse than solitude. I'll keep my solitude and give you back that loneliness. I have no use for it anymore.