Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...

[Joods]

The reason for the glitter

[Thumpalumpacus]

Hey, you got that stuff on the forum's header background, damn it.

Ir really does get everywhere, huh?

[Kernel Sohcahtoa]

CIJS,

One of my role models in military high school was a gentleman who was a retired U.S army master sergeant. I must ultimately give him the credit for helping me view leadership as an art-form.  In particular, he taught me the importance of being ‘kinder and gentler’: if a leader is even-tempered and is kind and gentle to his or her people, then they will ultimately trust that leader, which boosts their morale and encourages them to embrace the challenge of taking risks and tackling the unknown; whereas, if a leader is panicky and hollers, then he or she will not be effective, because people will only do things out of fear, which kills morale, creativity, and growth. Hence, when I was on the sales floor tonight as a management trainee, I put the ‘kinder and gentler’ leadership lesson into practice and found that the sales associates were receptive to it.

[robvalue]

CIJS: It's good to be back! How long was I gone? Feels like forever. I didn't like it.

My username is covered in marmalade. Fair enough.

I always find it amusing when someone says, halfway through a conversation, "To be honest with you...." I wonder if this is an admission to lying up to that point.

[Excited Penguin]

CIJS: It's good to be back! How long was I gone? Feels like forever. I didn't like it.

My username is covered in marmalade. Fair enough.

I always find it amusing when someone says, halfway through a conversation, "To be honest with you...." I wonder if this is an admission to lying up to that point.

No, it's not an admission to lying, it's to evidentiate that what is going to be said is going to be delicate for the other to hear, in order to attenuate any negative reaction to it. That or something to that effect, if you're talking about other people, except then it's more about extirpating guilt over being a gossip than softening blows. At least this is how I see this phrase being used. Of course it's sometimes used as nothing more than a simple prop for what's about to be said. Theatrics of that sort can play a role in conversation as well.

[Edwardo Piet]

CIJSAIJBH, I want an english muffin.

I've got one; do you want mine?  

I'd love it.

[Thumpalumpacus]

No, it's not an admission to lying, it's to evidentiate that what is going to be said is going to be delicate for the other to hear, in order to attenuate any negative reaction to it.

To expand on this -- when I say it, it's my way of saying, "What I'm about to say might hurt you, but it has to be said."

Somehow, "Go fuck yourself" still seems to bother them. Go figure.

[Joods]

Damn. My hand looks old.

[Kernel Sohcahtoa]

Damn. My hand looks old.

I don't think so mam.  IMO, your hand still looks youthful and pretty.  Live long and prosper.

[Edwardo Piet]

CIJS:

Kernel is very endearing.