Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...

[Thumpalumpacus]

CIJS

By all means...please, continue leaving class early on salon nights, when there is work to do and the salon needs everyone pitching in as a team. We'll see who gets a letter of recommendation from the instructor upon graduation. And a job. Cuz honey, no one is going to hire someone who isn't a team player, no matter how good you color hair. I have kids too, but I don't use them as an excuse to duck out early just because I don't feel like cleaning. I stay and I help because that's what teams do and that's called having fucking respect for your fellow classmates.

You need an intern.

Or nurses.

... or someone to whom she can give a list ...

[The Valkyrie]

You need an intern.

Or nurses.

... or someone to whom she can give a list ...

Otto's over there now...

[Edwardo Piet]

Reading through old posts I missed while I was on my break.

My opinion doesn't mean shit, but I don't want AF to turn into a safe space. I like freedom of speech.

Me too.

Yeah, but I certainly don't want to see valued members go, either.

No one forces anyone to leave, people choose to leave. People are responsible for their own feelings and for their own decisions to leave or not leave, to come or go.

So that's the short of my opinion on the massive drama I missed while I was gone

[Thumpalumpacus]

No one forces anyone to leave, people choose to leave. People are responsible for their own feelings and for their own decisions to leave or not leave, to come or go.

Of course they are. They're also responsible for their own postings here, and when such posts are clearly aimed at inflicting hurt rather than insight, then folks like myself and others are quite right to ask the forum's management to enforce the (now-changed) rules. That doesn't change my opinion that driving others off is in itself a negative influence. The only change is that the rules have been modified to accommodate such behavior. Make sure you don't reveal too much personally, because if someone decides to use it against you, they have free-play to do so.

People are certainly responsible for their own feelings. But pretending that such feelings cannot be instigated by others is silly. Since the forum's management sees fit to permit victim-blaming in the name of free speech -- laudable as that justification is -- they must also accept more coarseness in the discourse, including others firing back hoping to run off the cunts.

[Edwardo Piet]

I agree with all that just like you agreed with all of what I said too [emoji106]

So I kudos your post [emoji106]

[robvalue]

CIJS: The new rule restores my faith that the forum is moving in the right direction

It's put a big smile on my face this morning! Thank you staff!

Also, I'm really proud because the Enyo developer produced another patch with 13 fixes and 9 of them were from me

[robvalue]

Can I also just say:

Sorry again, particularly to the staff. I acted like a twat. I was in a very unsound state of mind with lots of stressors, and was working with a very skewed version of what was really happening. As it happens things have turned out well. The new rule is fantastic and puts most of my concerns to bed, and I needed to retire from the staff. It's just I made an arse of myself in the process and said a lot of things I regret.

I'm glad to be back, and this really feels like home again! Everyone has been very nice about it all, and I'm trying to accept that everyone fucks up now and again and to not be too hard on myself.

[Excited Penguin]

I know what I did wrong and I regret it. I accept all the accusations being thrown at me. That being said, sorry to the people that suffered the most because of my mistakes. I believe it would be best if I stayed as far away from them as possible, so no more direct contact. That is my own decision and I believe most people would think it was right.

Here's for a new beginning. From my perspective, if not from anyone else's.

[FatAndFaithless]

CIJS, you've had like..half a dozen "new beginnings" here already. Doesn't seem to stick.

[Longhorn]

CIJS

Don't touch me you fucking creep. Let go of my hand, or my hair, or me in general and take two steps back. You are the most bizarre, incomprehensible person I have ever met. I don't know what makes you think you can act like this around people.

And you... pout all you want. I know what you are. I'm not believing anything you say or do anymore. Should've seen the headlights, but at least I know where I stand now. Someone fucking me over is familiar ground and it feels so much better now.

And YOU. Get out of my head and into my room instead.

I guess that covers everybody. Oh, wait:

Fuck you, Wednesday. You should not be a thing.

Done now.