Good intentions -- how much do they mean to you?

[Edwardo Piet]

[Edwardo Piet]

At the moment I'm starting to think that... when someone does something bad unintentionally... it indeed doesn't matter that it was unintentional: the hurt is still the same.

And I also agree that despite they're more open to changing their behavior if they have good intentions... it indeed doesn't mean they will succeed and they may fail repeatedly.

Harmful or hurtful behavior that is carried out often enough and/or is severe enough... is intolerable regardless of whether it's intentional or unintentional.

However I do think there is a time when good intentions do matter an awful awful lot and make ALL the difference... and that's when it comes to: good actions.

A good action by accident is just a bad person who got lucky. An intentionally good action means a lot.

It's similar to how if someone wins a game intentionally rather than through luck: that displays that they have skill; it matters. If they win through pure luck they're just lucky.

But whether someone loses a game repeatedly by accident or on purpose, either way the result is the same. And if their teammates are counting on them either way it's gonna be frustrating.

Interesting I think.

[The Grand Nudger]

It;s a subtle shift in frames of reference.  When we reference the hurt we are referencing the subject.  When we reference the intent we are referencing the subjectee.  Thus, seemingly contradictory or paradoxical positions may exist and be simultaneously true about any given event, not -actually- being paradoxes, as they are not -actually- positions on the same thing, just positions regarding things on the periphery of some event.

ala

"An evil thing was done to her, by a man who was not, himself, evil."
or
"An evil man engaged in what he enjoyed as evil deeds, which..to her, were benevolencies."