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RE: [Update 1] of (So, I complimented this girl today...)
September 1, 2017 at 8:05 pm
(September 1, 2017 at 5:07 pm)spyrofannumber1 Wrote: Me: So I heard your majoring in psychology, my dad actually got his degree in psychology.
(My bold)
If you said it like that, you blew it. Sorry man, you had one shot at not mixing up you're with your...and it looks like you did that verbally. You're done, she'll never respect you.
Psychology... There's a fascinating subject!
I'm reading "The tale of the dueling neurosurgeons", an awesome book with cool stories about how we figured out how some bits of the brain work. Highly recommend it! :wink:
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RE: [Update 1] of (So, I complimented this girl today...)
September 1, 2017 at 8:36 pm
(September 1, 2017 at 7:48 pm)mh.brewer Wrote: Flash cards, really? Tell her she can do better than that. It's called study buddies.
"You know, I went out and got a set of flash cards, but my bros, they're too busy partying to help out, and..."
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RE: [Update 1] of (So, I complimented this girl today...)
September 1, 2017 at 9:13 pm
(September 1, 2017 at 5:07 pm)spyrofannumber1 Wrote: Hello, I'm back. I just wanted to say, I appreciate all of the helpful advice you guys have given me, thank you for that. Now time to give an update on the situation.
So class went over by about five minutes. During these five minutes, I watched the girl watch a clock on her computer watching the seconds go by of overtime. I personally found this a bit odd, but whatever. So once class was dismissed, I was already packed up. I was just waiting for the perfect moment. She got up to leave and I was about to follow her, but my bag was stuck on the other side of the chair. I nearly flipped the chair over trying to heave all of my heavy belongings. Great, now she's 5 seconds ahead, gotta go fast. As soon as I exited the classroom I looked down the haul to see her exiting the second floor. I tried my best to go after her, but my small frame became slow carrying my heavy bags. I got to the door a little bit after she did and opened it. There was someone behind me, so I decided to hold the door open for them. Once I did that, I ran down the stairs as fast and safely as I could, to get to the building's entrance. She was about ten meters in front of me. I started to almost gallop to get to where she was, but not before holding this door open for the same person. I galloped more and more until I reached her position.
Me: Hey, how's it going?
( She double takes me before taking her earbuds out.)
Crush: Hey.
Me: Hey, how's it going?
Crush: Good.
Me: That's cool.
Crush: Did you need me for something?
(She seems to be really attentive and good in our psychology class. Something else that I adore about her.)
Me: So I heard your majoring in psychology, my dad actually got his degree in psychology.
Crush: Oh, that's cool. Also, yes I am majoring in psychology.
Me: Yeah, actually I wanted to know how you got so good at psychology, and knowing all of the terms. Could you help me?
Crush: Oh, I studied over the summer.
Me: Really? How'd you study for something like this?
Crush: Oh, I uh, used flash cards.
(she stops walking and so I)
Me: Re--Re--Really? Flashcards don't uh, work for me that well.
(While I was delivering this sentence, she kind of gave me this awkward timid look with only about 50% of her body facing me, and looking at me with her head partially down. Keep in mind, I'm a bit taller than her.)
Crush: Well, there is this app called cram, and it really helps me to study for my classes.
Me: Oh, cool. Yeah this could really help me.
Crush: Good, glad I could help.
Me: Oh, by the way what's your name? My name is (my name).
( She hesitates for about 2-3 seconds before extending her hand.
Crush: And my name is _________.
(she then lit up with a smile and looked to be way more confident.)
Me: Well, I gotta get to my class, see ya.
Crush: Goodbye!
(I didn't dare to look back, but I wonder if she did.)
I felt I did terrible in this instance. Could some people rate on a scale of 1-10 of how well I did? I would also like new suggestions of how to approach her again, or if I should wait. Thanks.
I don't think you did anything wrong, but I'll be honest and say it doesn't seem like she's interested.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
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RE: [Update 1] of (So, I complimented this girl today...)
September 2, 2017 at 5:22 am
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Too many variables to make that conclusion CL, at this early stage (for me).
If she's a stunner, why would she bother with him? She's either got a dude or knocked back 50 before him.
Maybe he looks like Herman the monster and nobody's told him and she's just being polite?
Maybe she's batting for the other team?
Maybe she can't be bothered with personal relationships so she can put all of her efforts onto her studies?
too many variables...
OP, what do YOU think is going on...? (did she notice your hardon? That's a turn off, you know?)
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RE: [Update 1] of (So, I complimented this girl today...)
September 2, 2017 at 5:32 am
(September 1, 2017 at 5:13 pm)vorlon13 Wrote: She didn't stab you in the neck with her pen.
That's always a good sign.
(September 2, 2017 at 5:22 am)ignoramus Wrote: Too many variables to make that conclusion CL, at this early stage (for me).
If she's a stunner, why would she bother with him? She's either got a dude or knocked back 50 before him.
Maybe he looks like Herman the monster and nobody's told him and she's just being polite?
Maybe she's batting for the other team?
Maybe she can't be bothered with personal relationships so she can put all of her efforts onto her studies?
too many variables...
OP, what do YOU think is going on...? (did she notice your hardon? That's a turn off, you know?)
Yeah man, some people say I'm adorable, but I do think their just trying to be nice. I'd actually rather her tell me that I'm ugly. Isn't beauty in the eye of the beholder anyways?
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RE: [Update 1] of (So, I complimented this girl today...)
September 2, 2017 at 5:41 am
I'm sure you're handsome but whatever you do, don't sms or email her! Ever!
(One look at your inexcusable grammatical errors and she'll just roll her eyes) What college did you say you're studying at?)
I'm serious! And we are on your side!
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RE: [Update 1] of (So, I complimented this girl today...)
September 2, 2017 at 5:57 am
I'm actually studying at the University of Akron. Yeah, I do feel my grammar sucks.
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RE: [Update 1] of (So, I complimented this girl today...)
September 2, 2017 at 6:51 am
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RE: [Update 1] of (So, I complimented this girl today...)
September 2, 2017 at 1:05 pm
(September 2, 2017 at 5:22 am)ignoramus Wrote: Too many variables to make that conclusion CL, at this early stage (for me).
If she's a stunner, why would she bother with him? She's either got a dude or knocked back 50 before him.
Maybe he looks like Herman the monster and nobody's told him and she's just being polite?
Maybe she's batting for the other team?
Maybe she can't be bothered with personal relationships so she can put all of her efforts onto her studies?
too many variables...
OP, what do YOU think is going on...? (did she notice your hardon? That's a turn off, you know?)
Girls aren't that complicated. If a guy i felt attracted to came up to me and asked me if I'd help him study, I'd say yes and of course be thrilled. I wouldn't have ignored it like she did. Men are pretty bad at taking a hint. Trust me, she's not interested.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
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RE: [Update 1] of (So, I complimented this girl today...)
September 2, 2017 at 1:15 pm
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Take a chill pill dude, sound's like you did fine. Again, what is most important isn't that she will or will not end up liking you, what is important is that YOU BE YOURSELF and the rest will take care of itself. You cant go into this assuming an outcome. It might work out but it might not. It is better not to be in a relationship than to be in a bad relationship.
Don't be dreamy eyed about it and don't let your hormones rule you. If she ends up liking you she will like you just the way you are. If she doesn't end up wanting to date you, move on. RELAX that is what you can do for yourself.
The one relationship I had that lasted, all be it only 6 years, was with my X Wife. Prior to her I had always pursued. When I first met her I found her attractive, but not in a "smoken hot" way. And I had no intent on dating her, I just thought it was great to have a new friend. I wasn't stressed out with her or worried what she thought of me. I simply acted like my goofy self like I did with my guy friends. It ended up that she kept seeking me out in the cafeteria over and over and two months later it hit me, SHE LIKED ME.
Relationships that progress rarely start like a Hollywood movie. And as I said before, most females and males go through far more rejection before they hit that one partner that ends up working out.
Don't stress yourself worrying about what she might think of you. Every time you see her just treat her like you would a mere friend, because right now all you have is casual conversation anyway. Don't rush. The quickest way to chase a lady away is to show too much attention too quickly.
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