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RE: New here, still in the closet!
October 2, 2017 at 4:06 pm
(October 2, 2017 at 4:02 pm)Bob Kelso Wrote: Been there, done that, fuck that. Once I told everyone in my life that I was an atheist my life then became that much simpler. Sure a few of them raged for a bit but they're over it now and we can even joke about it.
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This is about the best advice anyone can give.
It's amazing 'science' always seems to 'find' whatever it is funded for, and never the oppsite. Drich.
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RE: New here, still in the closet!
October 2, 2017 at 4:33 pm
Welcome ccannon!
On the long run, getting out may be the better course of action, but that's not really what you want, is it?
Start questioning... start small... let the seeds of doubt spread slowly. Who knows? maybe there are more people around you in the same situation.
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RE: New here, still in the closet!
October 2, 2017 at 5:29 pm
Welcome aboard.
Hopefully you'll find what you're looking for among like minded atheists.
Some of our local theists bite, but most are okay.
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RE: New here, still in the closet!
October 3, 2017 at 2:01 am
(October 2, 2017 at 4:02 pm)Bob Kelso Wrote: Been there, done that, fuck that. Once I told everyone in my life that I was an atheist my life then became that much simpler. Sure a few of them raged for a bit but they're over it now and we can even joke about it.
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Same. Not only that, in time my parents and my sister also dropped their faith. It’s great.
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RE: New here, still in the closet!
October 3, 2017 at 5:55 am
Must be very tough. What I do with my own religious relatives is interpret everything they say and do symbolically. It is a lot of work but I find it allows me to have a relationship with them that is somewhat respectful of their choices without getting caught up in the details. Naturally I try to limit contact since the effort is taxing and the relationship is too lopsided to really nourish me. My ability to keep it up depends on my finding fulfillment elsewhere. So yeah, branch out somewhere where you can do you. Then, if you still want to, you can also keep up with the relatives on occasion.
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RE: New here, still in the closet!
October 3, 2017 at 7:22 am
(October 3, 2017 at 7:16 am)Bob Kelso Wrote: My favorite line keeps things copacetic when my family gets pushy/preachy:
"I appreciate the sentiment, I know this is coming from a good place for you but I'm fine so please just drop it."
I do my best not to sound sarcastic.
Not sarcastic?!?!? What the hell is wrong with you?
Being told you're delusional does not necessarily mean you're mental.
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RE: New here, still in the closet!
October 3, 2017 at 8:55 am
Welcome aboard,
Hope you enjoy it here, and hope you can find some friendly atheists to talk to in person too.
Have a virtual welcome drink on me!