2 pieces of advice for future parents

[Jackalope]

1.Braise in stock with thyme and rosemary.

2. Serve with a dry white.

[Crossless2.0]

How many movies did Roger Ebert make ?

Precisely.

But since you ask, Ebert wrote (or co-wrote) the screenplay for the eminently forgettable Beyond the Valley of the Dolls.

[Shell B]

You're not always right. Teach and punish from a place devoid of anger. That isn't to say you shouldn't ever be angry with your kids, but rather that the important stuff shouldn't happen in those moments if you can help it. You might realize you were wrong before it's time to punish/teach. At the very least, you'll be more reasonable about it.

Sometimes your kids are going to be absolute shits. You'll be more pissed at them than you ever thought possible. They'll do something that you never would have thought them capable of. Remember, they're your shitheads. Don't defend them. Don't disown them. Teach them how to atone and clean up their messes.

[vorlon13]

[Edwardo Piet]

1. Love unconditionally; yourself, your spouse, your parents, your friends, it goes without saying love your kids. But don't forget about yourself and your relationships. YOU are important. They watch your every move and listen to every word; have a house full of love more than anything else.

So basically what I said except you get kudos because you're a parent

Good advice by the way. I'm not teasing you. Just someone else

[Divinity]

New rule: when posting your two pieces of advice, also post how many children you've raised. Not aimed at anyone in particular.

Raised 6.  5 of my own, plus my sister.  And as a single mother at that too.

[mlmooney89]

In the end it's parents' choice.

Well so is abortion, and there would be no need for this thread.
We've home schooled our kids mostly. Some public schools have been okay, but I feel like some just teach for the tests. Just not cracked up with it. Just a personal choice though. My kids do have some friends in public schools and some of them are pretty damn sharp, upstanding teenagers. So it's not all bad, though I would suspect that the majority of that comes from the home rather than the school.

I was just saying that my advice would be opposite of yours. I've seen the homeschooled kids vs the public school ones. I'm not saying that it is every home schooled kid but majority of them had issues socializing when older. It can cause pretty severe separation anxiety. My personal advice would be send the kids to school and then supplement their learning at home with your own teaching.

"Because I said so" is 100% OK by Rosemond; I've been reading his column for years, I understand his reasoning and concur.

The folks that think "Because I said so" somehow damages the little shits are completely wrong.

I agree. In the real world you don't always get answers so might as well let them learn now. If someone of authority says no you can't always say why without getting in trouble.

1. Kids learn by example. "Do as I say not what I do" is a a failure for that reason.
2. Therefore...  the best way to teach your children to respect themselves is by respecting yourself.

Sorry but I disagree with #1. I can curse and drink and have a burger for breakfast. I will still tell my daughter not to do those things until she is old enough.

New rule: when posting your two pieces of advice, also post how many children you've raised. Not aimed at anyone in particular.

Raised 6.  5 of my own, plus my sister.  And as a single mother at that too.

I understand the raising your sister all too well. Sometimes that's harder because they know you aren't mom.

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New rule: when posting your two pieces of advice, also post how many children you've raised. Not aimed at anyone in particular.

I haven't raised any of my own kids but I don't think that really matters. I could go into detail about how I helped raise my two little sisters and how I practically raised a bunch of kids while working at the daycare but I don't think that matters when it's just someone's advice/opinion. Hell there has been contradicting advice here already from people that are parents.


Off that note, no longer just to Thump, working at a daycare for so long helped me see how each style of parenting helped shape children. I got to see the actions of the parents and the results in multiples. Especially when I was the lead teacher in the schooler's room for three years. I swear I saw some of those kids more than their own mothers did. I had one kid (with his 3 siblings also in my class) making 12's on his spelling tests. By the time I had to leave that job I was crying because he was making 98's and I knew if I wasn't there to help him he would just go back to not caring and failing. Their single mom worked in a prison and picked them up at 11pm, took them home, bathed them, put them to bed, then got them to school the next day. She never had time to help with homework and the other teachers didn't care enough.

[Losty]

I want to add a new one.

If a person in the medical field offers you or your child a shot that is intended to prevent some type of illness, say yes. Always say yes. Whatever it is. Flu shot, whooping cough vaccine etc etc etc.
From the time your first is born until your youngest moves out, your life will likely be filled with illness. When they’re in school they will bring home every illness from every kid in their class and give it to every person in your home. Trust me, you’ll want to prevent what you can because kids get sick a lot and also parents don’t get sick days.

Oh something cool, we have what we call “the purple bag” it’s just a purple gym bag and it’s filled with any medical supplies you can think of from otc meds to bandaids, gauze, burn spray. I keep it stocked with anything I can think of and I keep it in my car. It comes in handy a lot.

[The Valkyrie]

I want to add a new one.

If a person in the medical field offers you or your child a shot that is intended to prevent some type of illness, say yes. Always say yes. Whatever it is. Flu shot, whooping cough vaccine etc etc etc. *
From the time your first is born until your youngest moves out, your life will likely be filled with illness. When they’re in school they will bring home every illness from every kid in their class and give it to every person in your home. Trust me, you’ll want to prevent what you can because kids get sick a lot and also parents don’t get sick days.

Oh something cool, we have what we  call “the purple bag” it’s just a purple gym bag and it’s filled with any medical supplies you can think of from otc meds to bandaids, gauze, burn spray. I keep it stocked with anything I can think of and I keep it in my car. It comes in handy a lot.

* Unless it's Beccs!

Fixed that for you.

[BrokenQuill92]

1. A child is still a person and yes people without children do have a right to judge your parenting style
2. Hitting a kid won’t make them obey anymore than hitting you will make you obey me