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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 3:49 pm
Losty's story was funny.
Pool.... adding sexual assault into your question does NOT make the 'pressure' clearer. Unless you make it clear that it's more than just pressuring someone for sec... it's fucking assault. Lol.
Assault is assault, Pool. Assault is assault.
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 4:19 pm
Yeah, I'm pretty sure if my husband propositioned my best friend for a blow job (laughable scenario, but what the hell), she'd brain him before I had the chance. It's not a matter of being possessive or any of that other juvenile shit people attribute the expectation of loyalty to. It's about respect. I'd be super duper surprised to find out I wasn't on the same page as my spouse, at any rate. We're too practical for sloppy love lives. STDs are pre-existing conditions, and they could make our insurance rates go up in Trump's America.
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 5:52 pm
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(October 16, 2017 at 11:22 am)pool the matey Wrote: You have a friend. He/She is your best friend. You've been friends for a long long time and you're very dear friends.
This friend of yours have a boyfriend/girlfriend that he/she loves very much. They've been dating for more than 8 years. They are such a lovely couple hoping to get married one day. All they talk about is how many kids they're going to have, their marriage, their future, they're really in love etc.
One day you're left alone with the girlfriend/boyfriend of your best friend for a brief moment and he/she starts touching you, kissing you, feeling you up, like basically sexually assault you and immediately goes back to normal when somebody walked in.
You're shocked. This person is nothing like you had imagined and you're left with two options:
1) You tell your best friend what happened.
2) You don't tell your best friend what happened.
What will you do? Why?
I am going to tell my friend to dump the ho. I know, btw, what happens next-- 100% the bitch will claim you hit on her and begged her to keep it a secret, and that she'd never ever do anything like that. Then your friend will tell you to fuck yourself and break off social contact. Then he'll figure out years later she's cheating on him, divorce her, end up a single Dad because it turns out she's been doing heroin again, and you'll take your kids and his to a hockey game some day.
To the guys who said they wouldn't appreciate the "sexual assault," I just can't get on that page; yeah yeah liberalism, women and men are equal etc. etc. But if my friend is marrying this girl, she's probably not a wildebeest. Unless she's drugging me and sticking a broom handle up my ass, I'm not going to feel violated or assaulted. If you're capable of being the recipient of sexual advances from an attractive female, and you feel assaulted, then I don't even know what species you are!
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 6:34 pm
He wouldn't be acting normal when someone walked into the room.
He'd be on the floor, groaning and clutching his nuts.
Then I'd tell my best friend all about it.
Playing Cluedo with my mum while I was at Uni:
"You did WHAT? With WHO? WHERE???"
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 8:08 pm
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(October 16, 2017 at 11:22 am)pool the matey Wrote: You have a friend. He/She is your best friend. You've been friends for a long long time and you're very dear friends.
This friend of yours have a boyfriend/girlfriend that he/she loves very much. They've been dating for more than 8 years. They are such a lovely couple hoping to get married one day. All they talk about is how many kids they're going to have, their marriage, their future, they're really in love etc.
One day you're left alone with the girlfriend/boyfriend of your best friend for a brief moment and he/she starts touching you, kissing you, feeling you up, like basically sexually assault you and immediately goes back to normal when somebody walked in.
You're shocked. This person is nothing like you had imagined and you're left with two options:
1) You tell your best friend what happened.
2) You don't tell your best friend what happened.
What will you do? Why?
A moral dilemma question?
The fat ginger step kid gets thrown under the bus. Thread/
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 9:09 pm
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(October 16, 2017 at 2:16 pm)pool the matey Wrote: Well, say you do tell your best friend about it. Now you're going to be the guy that ended a 8 year long relationship.. . That's not a small thing to bear.
Or your friend don't believe you, cmon the guy has been with this chick for 8 years, he's probably going to think something like you're jealous of their relationship or something....and now you're the guy that's jealous of his best friend doing good...
This sounds remarkably like a badly rewritten conversion story. Lust, guilt, drama and reconciliation? Fuck her and be done with it.
(October 16, 2017 at 2:24 pm)pool the matey Wrote: Yeah, I can agree with that but instead of seeing yourself as a third party when you see yourself as the guy, it just gets a lot more complicated.
Because get this, this chick knew you were best friends she is playing with the heart of your best friend whom you've known since forever... Is there a moral obligation to let him know? Yes.. Should you do it? Probably Not because you don't want to be the guy to ruin the one thing your best friend had going for him..
So the question becomes would you rather him be ignorant and happy or informed but sad
Voila moral dilemma
Voila doesn’t cum into it! You've had designs on this woman for eight years now. Fuck her, or fuck off.
(October 16, 2017 at 2:37 pm)pool the matey Wrote: Lol let's just erase the assault part because that's not doing this discussion any favor 😂
Question boils down to, would you rather your friend be ignorant but happy or informed but sad? I think you're leaning over to the informed but sad side? You do realize although you're being honest here you're still ruining the happiness of your best friend though, right?... What if he goes on a downward spiral and ends up taking his own life or something? Because we're talking about a 8 year+ relationship... It's safe to assume that shit will probably sting
Forget the friend bit. How about the woman that is totally unknown to you? The woman is still someone's wife, daughter, sister, mother; I'm at a loss trying to fathom what your point is? People make mistakes, well yes. So fucking what?
How do 'you' deal with it?
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 9:41 pm
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Pooley, I can't get past the first hypothetical?
The bit about 'you have a friend'? What's that?
Are they the Relos who are always busting me to fix their network?
Or the neighbours who call me over when they can't dismantle their Dyson?
Or all the others who want to borrow my power tools?
Even the wife needs a new pair of shoes to get rid of that awful headache on a Saturday night!
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Know God, Know fear.
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 9:47 pm
I'd definitely have a serious talk with the person who just violated my personal space. Whether I tell my best friend/the cops afterwards depends on how the talk goes.
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 10:53 pm
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bennyboy Wrote:I am going to tell my friend to dump the ho. I know, btw, what happens next-- 100% the bitch will claim you hit on her and begged her to keep it a secret, and that she'd never ever do anything like that. Then your friend will tell you to fuck yourself and break off social contact. Then he'll figure out years later she's cheating on him, divorce her, end up a single Dad because it turns out she's been doing heroin again, and you'll take your kids and his to a hockey game some day.
lol This is spot on because it's your word against her and 9 times out of 10 nobody is going to believe you, you'll just cause a lot of drama and lose a lot of friends and for what? In the end you look like an idiot. So it's better to just shut up about it, pretend like nothing happened and make sure you're not left alone with that chick again
Succubus Wrote:Fuck her and be done with it.
Lol this is also a option but I don't think anyone with a little bit of decency would do it
Hammy Wrote:Pool.... adding sexual assault into your question does NOT make the 'pressure' clearer. Unless you make it clear that it's more than just pressuring someone for sec... it's fucking assault. Lol.
Assault is assault, Pool. Assault is assault. Yes Hammy we're well aware of what assault is. That's not the point though lol!
The point is you have two options, you can either not tell your friend and keep him ignorant but happy or you can tell him and that'll means he'll be informed but sad
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 17, 2017 at 12:46 am
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(October 16, 2017 at 10:53 pm)pool the matey Wrote: bennyboy Wrote:I am going to tell my friend to dump the ho. I know, btw, what happens next-- 100% the bitch will claim you hit on her and begged her to keep it a secret, and that she'd never ever do anything like that. Then your friend will tell you to fuck yourself and break off social contact. Then he'll figure out years later she's cheating on him, divorce her, end up a single Dad because it turns out she's been doing heroin again, and you'll take your kids and his to a hockey game some day.
lol This is spot on because it's your word against her and 9 times out of 10 nobody is going to believe you, you'll just cause a lot of drama and lose a lot of friends and for what? In the end you look like an idiot. So it's better to just shut up about it, pretend like nothing happened and make sure you're not left alone with that chick again
No, that's not better. Your friend is entering into a lifelong mating and financial relationship with a whore. Being a good friend means not letting that happen to a friend, even if it might cause you to lose the friendship.
To me, it's not even a dilemma. You have information that might make or break your friend's happiness for a lifetime. You give him the information.
Now, if they are already married, and you found out that while they were dating, she was cheating or something like that-- okay, maybe you bite your tongue.
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