Apologies To All I've Ever Insulted
November 5, 2017 at 5:28 pm
(This post was last modified: November 5, 2017 at 5:31 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
I don't care who you are, I don't care what you've done, I don't care who is right, I don't care who is wrong in this regard: I apologize to anyone on AF who I have ever insulted. There is no hate here, no malice, no anger, no resentment, no hatred. Sometimes I just get aggressive when I'm speaking my mind. My primary motive is always to speak my mind and say what I think.
But when it comes to speaking my mind, insults are not helpful. And even swearing that insults what someone said rather than insulting the person: None of that is helpful unless the intention is to be humorous (and you're very clearly laughing with someone and not at them). I'd never wish to stop swearing, swearing is awesome, swearing is fun. But to say that something someone said is fucking stupid, while not being as bad as saying they are fucking stupid, whether sincere or not it's not helpful or persuasive.
So, I feel no hate, no malice, no anger, no resentment. But I also feel no regret, shame, or remorse. I feel no emotion about the past about these things but I do reflect and intend to do better in future. What I do hope for is the following: I hope making a post like this and expressing a genuine intention to become a less insulting and aggressive person, whether I'm speaking my mind or not, will be a helpful post to others and I hope I will be able to change for the better.
Finally, I am not sure if the following statement is helpful or not, but it's harmless at worst, and it is also sincere: I have often spoken my mind and been insulting and aggressive-sounding while swearing without feeling any anger, despite seeming angry. I often come across as ways I am not, and give false impressions, but my intention is never to mislead, my intention is only to speak my mind. The point always was that I didn't really care about how I came across what I cared about was what I really believed and that I knew I was genuinely speaking my mind.
But the important part is I intend to be less unhelpful and less uncivil. And I realize that insults and aggression is not an effective way to convince anyone of the truth. I also realize that if I feel like someone is a bad influence on AF, and I am trying to let people know that they are, I am not going to convince anyone of the truth of the things I say when I speak my mind by saying them with more aggressive or insulting fervor.
Honesty is fine. Brutal honestly is also fine but it's unnecessary if one can express honesty without brutality.
P.S. Apologies for the redundancy and repetition in this post. I think my first priority with regards to my communication skills is to reduce all insults and aggression. I think my second priority is to avoid my compulsive responding. And I think the reducing my redundancy and repetition is only my third and final priority (with regards to communication skills, I mean).
Thank you.
But when it comes to speaking my mind, insults are not helpful. And even swearing that insults what someone said rather than insulting the person: None of that is helpful unless the intention is to be humorous (and you're very clearly laughing with someone and not at them). I'd never wish to stop swearing, swearing is awesome, swearing is fun. But to say that something someone said is fucking stupid, while not being as bad as saying they are fucking stupid, whether sincere or not it's not helpful or persuasive.
So, I feel no hate, no malice, no anger, no resentment. But I also feel no regret, shame, or remorse. I feel no emotion about the past about these things but I do reflect and intend to do better in future. What I do hope for is the following: I hope making a post like this and expressing a genuine intention to become a less insulting and aggressive person, whether I'm speaking my mind or not, will be a helpful post to others and I hope I will be able to change for the better.
Finally, I am not sure if the following statement is helpful or not, but it's harmless at worst, and it is also sincere: I have often spoken my mind and been insulting and aggressive-sounding while swearing without feeling any anger, despite seeming angry. I often come across as ways I am not, and give false impressions, but my intention is never to mislead, my intention is only to speak my mind. The point always was that I didn't really care about how I came across what I cared about was what I really believed and that I knew I was genuinely speaking my mind.
But the important part is I intend to be less unhelpful and less uncivil. And I realize that insults and aggression is not an effective way to convince anyone of the truth. I also realize that if I feel like someone is a bad influence on AF, and I am trying to let people know that they are, I am not going to convince anyone of the truth of the things I say when I speak my mind by saying them with more aggressive or insulting fervor.
Honesty is fine. Brutal honestly is also fine but it's unnecessary if one can express honesty without brutality.
P.S. Apologies for the redundancy and repetition in this post. I think my first priority with regards to my communication skills is to reduce all insults and aggression. I think my second priority is to avoid my compulsive responding. And I think the reducing my redundancy and repetition is only my third and final priority (with regards to communication skills, I mean).
Thank you.
