I Don't Care

[The Grand Nudger]

Or they could just tell me their status first so I can decide? I don’t know how I’d feel, but I do like making these decisions myself.

"I really wanna grab you by the pussy, but first, a question, got one?" -  it really is that easy. If I got handsy and came up with penis..that's on me.

I think it's hilarious how large this issue is in the minds of the insecure, personally, obviously nothing to do with you. The odds of accidentally groping peen are monumentally low. To hear the story told, there are just piles and piles of trannys suckering Totally Hetero™ guys into grabbing their dicks. It's a scourge of modern society. Surprise penis around every corner, lol.

[Losty]

I feel conflicted about this. How is it “none of their business”? If you’re having sex with someone, I think it might be their business.

[The Grand Nudger]

If you're reaching for crotch, the only business that matters is your business.  They're your hands. Come up with something unexpected, well, I guess it's time to laugh or do some soul searching.

LOL, hell, you might even be looking for peen and find the wrong -kind- of peen. Your problem. Their toad peen aint your business until you decide to grab it.

It's just the usual dump of responsibility in othering, plausible until you give it a moments thought. Consider this - "you should have told me it was a mexican dick!" The gist is a denial of desire for shame. If only you'd known some x, then maybe you wouldn't have been so damned slutty, lol. My advice to any guy aquiver with fear over surprise penis is simple. A, it's not going to happen. B....on the odd chance it does, lean in, you obviously like her.

[Losty]

If you're reaching for crotch, the only business that matters is your business.  They're you're hands.

Well obviously, if you just reach down and grab someone crotch without permission.
But if you’re both into each other and you’re progressing towards sex then it seems like something you should tell someone maybe? I’m not sure. Surprising as it may be, I’m not typically one to just have sex with a random stranger so I’m not sure what the protocol should be.
In typical relationships communication and honesty are important. I guess if you’re about to have sex with a stranger and you know you’re against having sex with a trans person, it might be up to you to ask. But definitely if you do take the initiative to ask and they lie, that would for sure be wrong. If you don’t ask and they don’t tell you...that’s iffy, I feel like they should tell you but I’m not sure if it’s morally wrong if they don’t.

[Losty]

If you're reaching for crotch, the only business that matters is your business.  They're your hands.  Come up with something unexpected, well, I guess it's time to laugh or do some soul searching.

LOL, hell, you might even be looking for peen and find the wrong -kind- of peen.  Your problem.  Their toad peen aint your business until you decide to grab it.

It's just the usual dump of responsibility in othering, plausible until you give it a moments thought.  Consider this - "you should have told me it was a mexican dick!"  The gist is a denial of desire for shame.  If only you'd known some x, then maybe you wouldn't have been so damned slutty, lol.  My advice to any guy aquiver with fear over surprise penis is simple.  A, it's not going to happen.  B....on the odd chance it does, lean in, you obviously like her.

Now that you’ve edited your message I think I’m getting a better idea. You wouldn’t expect a one night stand to give you any other personal information on themselves so why this?
So yea, it’s probably on the person who wants to know to ask.

[The Grand Nudger]

Sure, but the whole "honesty and communication" thing isn't what these sleazeballs are worried about.  They have nightmares about ambush dick.

They're the ones that grab it, but, somehow..it's her fault they wanted to grab her crotch. Fuck that, if they just have to be ashamed, maybe they should own their own shame for once.

They like a chick with a dick. Now what. Balls in their court.

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I rarely got a -name- on a one night stand, lol.  I didn't know my wifes name for a good week.  Wasn't gonna ask,either, lol. If she had a dick, I'd have known that, and still not known her name. Called her Red....still call her Red, lol. I didn't really see her till the next day, I just knew she was wearing red. Soooo drunk. Didn't know she was a fuckin christian either - ruined my unbroken pagan streak. Should she have told me?

[Losty]

Sure, but the whole "honesty and communication" thing isn't what these sleazeballs are worried about.  They have nightmares about ambush dick.

They're the ones that grab it, but, somehow..it's her fault they wanted to grab her crotch.  Fuck that, if they just have to be ashamed, maybe they should own their own shame for once.  

They like a chick with a dick.  Now what.  Balls in their court.

But some people have said they would be uncomfortable even if she’s post op.
No one gets to choose what they’re attracted to and what they’re turned off by, so there definitely no shame in being 100% opposed to having sex with a trans person. That in itself doesn’t make someone a sleazeball.

[The Grand Nudger]

What makes a person a sleazeball, is being attracted to trans person, and then shaming them for their own attraction as a violation.

It's not difficult. Reach down mining for puss, find peen..realize that you aren't actually the person you thought you were...smile, and move on. Or, you know, call them a rapist. Yons game. Long story short, yes..the people who sell this dillemma are absolute dirtbags. They sell it in a plausible form, but ofc they would, because not all dirtbags are also idiots. They know how to appeal. They know how to play you off yourself, lol.

We've all reached down and got a fistful of something we regret. Those of us who aren't committed to being the worst versions of ourselves recognize that, fundamentally, that's on us.

[Yonadav]

It's nobody else's business

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And there's a lot of personal truths there, right? Why should anyone respect your personal truth if you don't respect theirs? If there are a lot of people who would feel violated by unknowingly being intimate with a transsexual, who are we to deny the validity of their feelings of having been violated?

We have no right to demand that a person believe that a transwoman is a woman just like any other woman. We have a right to demand that they treat us with respect and dignity in our day to day lives, but we don't have a right to demand that they have sex with us just like any other woman. When we don't tell them and they don't know, then we are making that demand. We don't have a right to make it. And if they later find out, then they have every right to feel violated.

It's none of their business and their feels don't matter

So why should anyone respect your feelings about anything? You don't respect those of others. I sure don't want someone feeling like I violated them.

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If you're reaching for crotch, the only business that matters is your business.  They're your hands.  Come up with something unexpected, well, I guess it's time to laugh or do some soul searching.

LOL, hell, you might even be looking for peen and find the wrong -kind- of peen.  Your problem.  Their toad peen aint your business until you decide to grab it.

It's just the usual dump of responsibility in othering, plausible until you give it a moments thought.  Consider this - "you should have told me it was a mexican dick!"  The gist is a denial of desire for shame.  If only you'd known some x, then maybe you wouldn't have been so damned slutty, lol.  My advice to any guy aquiver with fear over surprise penis is simple.  A, it's not going to happen.  B....on the odd chance it does, lean in, you obviously like her.

Now that you’ve edited your message I think I’m getting a better idea. You wouldn’t expect a one night stand to give you any other personal information on themselves so why this?
So yea, it’s probably on the person who wants to know to ask.

It just being a one night stand doesn't get anyone off the hook. If the person later finds out and feels violated, then you can't just dismiss their feelings because it was just a one night stand. "It was just one time" isn't a defense.

[The Grand Nudger]

You're suffering under the false assumption that everyone should respect everyone elses feelings.  I don't respect yours, and that fact doesn't fill me with a single iota of regret or shame.

Mostly, because it's the usual song and dance.  Some terrible person is okay with being terrible, because they think that pointing to imaginary hypocrisy excuses their shittyness.

Whatever gets you through the day, troll. Heaven forfend you realize what a trash person you are, that really would be tragic.