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RE: Thoughts on sexual services?
September 6, 2022 at 7:49 pm
(September 6, 2022 at 8:29 am)The Grand Nudger Wrote: I wouldn't rate my sex life before 27 as the better part of it. You probably understand a little bit more what's involved in finding and being with the kind of person you want to be with than you did when you were younger, yeah? It becomes more and more true every year, I think. Chiseled out of stone yet? Workin on those social skills and graces? Spending alot of time where the girls you like are, developing the kinds of relationships you'd want? Whatever's involved. I mean, I guess the whole pitch of a sex worker is that you get the sex without all that trouble.
Main problem is being exposed to women I find attractive. I have been trying to be more social, join clubs, etc. Right now I’m on vacations though, so I can’t meet women at university.
But yeah, I’m working on my skills. Still, sometimes you need to invest so much time and effort on a woman, and you don’t even know if you will get anything 😢
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September 6, 2022 at 7:50 pm
(September 6, 2022 at 12:58 pm)HappySkeptic Wrote: If you go the "professional" route, my guess is that you will find that 1) There is a missing emotional factor that makes it less satisfying than you hoped, and 2) By getting the whole virgin thing done with, you might both be more confident with regular women, and also more interested in that emotional factor.
Being needy for sex turns women off. You will never get a "beautiful woman" just because you want one - it must makes you look creepy. You might get one someday because you create an attachment, and she likes you (assuming you aren't ugly and poor).
Creating an attachment with a pretty girl is very difficult 😣
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September 6, 2022 at 7:52 pm
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(September 6, 2022 at 7:50 pm)Macoleco Wrote: Creating an attachment with a pretty girl is very difficult 😣
It sounds like its time to lower your standards
Beautiful girls know they are beautiful. They get stares, comments, and come-ons every week of their life. They are not going to respond positively to some geeky guy. They also know that they can use what they have to get their dream guy (rich and handsome).
As someone else said, find the girl-next-door type. There are probably 50% of women in university that you would find attractive. Also, work on your social skills and your career.
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RE: Thoughts on sexual services?
September 6, 2022 at 9:08 pm
If all you are looking for is a pretty face (by your standards) who will accept you as a sexual partner, I'd suspect that any woman in your vicinity is pretty much convinced that you are really shallow and aren't worth her time.
If you get to thinking you’re a person of some influence, try ordering somebody else’s dog around.
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RE: Thoughts on sexual services?
September 6, 2022 at 9:08 pm
(September 6, 2022 at 7:52 pm)HappySkeptic Wrote: (September 6, 2022 at 7:50 pm)Macoleco Wrote: Creating an attachment with a pretty girl is very difficult 😣
It sounds like its time to lower your standards
Beautiful girls know they are beautiful. They get stares, comments, and come-ons every week of their life. They are not going to respond positively to some geeky guy. They also know that they can use what they have to get their dream guy (rich and handsome).
As someone else said, find the girl-next-door type. There are probably 50% of women in university that you would find attractive. Also, work on your social skills and your career. Nice story bro. Although I’m a little tired of the stereotype of pretty women saying rich chad men.
They usually date ugly rich men. Or normal men. I don’t consider myself to not be worth of the beauty of a woman. Stop projecting.
Working on social skills. Career is already set. Working towards my master and doctor degree in one of the imperial universities of Japan 😌
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September 6, 2022 at 9:17 pm
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September 6, 2022 at 10:02 pm
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(September 6, 2022 at 7:49 pm)Macoleco Wrote: Main problem is being exposed to women I find attractive. I have been trying to be more social, join clubs, etc. Right now I’m on vacations though, so I can’t meet women at university.
But yeah, I’m working on my skills. Still, sometimes you need to invest so much time and effort on a woman, and you don’t even know if you will get anything 😢 You get the time you spent. If that wasn't worth anything on it's own I doubt that fucking would change the calculus. I'd say points to the hooker on this one.
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RE: Thoughts on sexual services?
September 6, 2022 at 10:08 pm
I can't say I understand your plight, because I just don't. I wish I had some relevant advice, but I just don't.
For me, it was easy. I never considered myself attractive, but I had two things going in my favor. I was a skinny little twink and gay. Twinks can easily find sex in the gay community, especially the bar/club scene.
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RE: Thoughts on sexual services?
September 6, 2022 at 10:21 pm
(September 6, 2022 at 10:08 pm)Tomato Wrote: I can't say I understand your plight, because I just don't. I wish I had some relevant advice, but I just don't.
For me, it was easy. I never considered myself attractive, but I had two things going in my favor. I was a skinny little twink and gay. Twinks can easily find sex in the gay community, especially the bar/club scene.
I have a gay friend who has shown me how easy it is to get sex. He uses apps like Grindr. It’s so easy.
Wish it was the same for Hetero men lol
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RE: Thoughts on sexual services?
September 6, 2022 at 11:03 pm
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(September 6, 2022 at 2:37 pm)Fake Messiah Wrote: And sometimes guys go with a ho to step down from beauty. Like the prostitute, Hugh Grant was with while he dated Elizabeth Hurley.
And even that was evidence for the existence of God as well as being a divine act itself (as anything can be to a religious person) so she explains:
Quote:‘I was just trying to pay a few bills that night,’ she tells me. ‘Lo and behold I got a celebrity. I’d agreed to go with him for $50, but ended up with more than ten thousand times that. God has a path for us all.’
Most of the money was spent on showy cars and a flashy lifestyle, but enough was invested wisely in property to allow her to put her two older daughters, Cheyenne, 21, and Brianna, 20, through college.
‘I have the most wonderful life now,’ she says. ‘I’ve got a nice new home with three bedrooms and four bathrooms. It’s very pretty and I have a beautiful garden with flowers. There’s no pool, but I do have a picket fence. I thank the Lord every day.’
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/artic...urley.html
Alledgedly Elizabeth Hurley did not give blow jobs. The same reason was given for why Ingrid Bergman, considered the hot candle for the discerning gentleman during her time, was cheated on by her decidedly plain husband.
Sometime the type and quality of service matter more than hotness, whether the services are of purely a carnal nature, or a mixture of the carnal and emotional.
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