Thoughts on Courtly love (aka platonic love)

[Macoleco]

Dante among his peers such as Petrarch popularized the courtly love. Which is honestly, I believe, an emotion most men feel at young age. To fall in love with a girl by just looking at her, and feeling and overwhelming sensation when near her, to the point of not thinking or talk coherently.

Do you think such concept has now disappeared from the social collective or ridiculed by words such as Oneitis

Courtly love is beautiful on paper, but painful in real life.

[arewethereyet]

Must make an appointment with the eye doctor. Read this as Courtney Love...twice.

[Ahriman]

Also known as infatuation. This happened to me a few times while I was in school. I never said two words to any of the girls I was infatuated with. I have to wonder if they felt anything for me in return. But you're right, it's painful, extremely so. I would fantasize about these girls endlessly, imagining our lives together and having sexual fantasies, and it was actually terrible. I have no idea what made me infatuated with these girls in particular.

[purplepurpose]

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[Rev. Rye]

Dante among his peers such as Petrarch popularized the courtly love. Which is honestly, I believe, an emotion most men feel at young age. To fall in love with a girl by just looking at her, and feeling and overwhelming sensation when near her, to the point of not thinking or talk coherently.

Do you think such concept has now disappeared from the social collective or ridiculed by words such as Oneitis

Courtly love is beautiful on paper, but painful in real life.

Your definition of courtly love is incomplete. A crucial part you seem to have neglected to mention is the lady is supposed to publicly reject him, and that his love (at least publicly) was then to take another, somewhat closer to Platonic form. I emphasize publicly because, well, look at the tale of Launcelot and Guinevere.

[Jehanne]

My understanding is that the concept of Courtly love had its origins in the Peace & True of God movement that attempted (largely unsuccessfully) to restrain High Middle Ages noble violence which later evolved into the concept of Courtly love via the romanticization of the Arthurian legends to later be mocked in Don Quixote, only to result in the Star Wars franchise a few centuries later on.

[Silver]

In my younger days, I usually had infatuations toward men I saw but never met. Of course, they always turned out to be straight. A huge part of this condition was due to me being an introvert. It's a dangerous condition, because it can lead to erotomania.

[Angrboda]

If it weren't for lust, I'd have no sex life at all.

[Neo-Scholastic]

IDW...romantizing unrequited love sounds like sour grapes to me.

[Rev. Rye]

Sour grapes would be trying to get something, failing to do so, and then convincing yourself that you never wanted it in the first place.