Are you nice to people who aren't nice to you (first) or are you nice to all people? In other words, are you a 'give what you have received' type of person? Just curious.

I tend to treat everyone well, but if someone disrespects me in some way, or devalues my friendship, I won't treat them in the same way, but I may just back away, and keep my distance. I don't believe you need to stoop to someone's level, or seek revenge simply because they have wronged you. But, just curious how you all approach things like this?

I tend to ignore those who vex me. Not sure if by 'unkind' you mean stabbing them in the throat with a large philips screwdriver. If so, merely ignoring them would be 'kind'.

I try to be decent to people when I meet them, though one of my favourite sayings is, "I tend to think negatively about people when I first meet them as it saves time later".

That's not truly how I look at people, though. But, if you're nasty to me I tend to turn on your quickly, and vocally...

(August 30, 2015 at 11:11 pm)vorlon13 Wrote: I tend to ignore those who vex me.  Not sure if by 'unkind' you mean stabbing them in the throat with a large philips screwdriver.  If so, merely ignoring them would be 'kind'.

lol 

Yea, for example...let's say you work with someone who is not very kind. Continuously. Are YOU still kind to that person?

I'm a "give what you receive... and more" kinda bitch.

I feel like you have to stand up for yourself. I was the "back away, ignore them" kid in school and it got me nowhere.

(August 30, 2015 at 11:12 pm)Beccs Wrote: I try to be decent to people when I meet them, though one of my favourite sayings is, "I tend to think negatively about people when I first meet them as it saves time later".

That's not truly how I look at people, though.  But, if you're nasty to me I tend to turn on your quickly, and vocally...

Hi Beccs 

That makes sense. So vocally, too? Interesting.

I'm thinking about this tonight, because my friends and I were chatting about it over the weekend, as to how each of us kind of deals with this type of thing a bit differently.

I am the type of individual who responds to friendliness with friendliness and to rudeness with rudeness.

Except for at work, where one is forced to unnaturally respect the idiots of the world who need to be fucking shot in the head.

(August 30, 2015 at 11:13 pm)Yeauxleaux Wrote: I'm a "give what you receive... and more" kinda bitch.

I feel like you have to stand up for yourself. I was the "back away, ignore them" kid in school and it got me nowhere.

I'm an ignore you when you have fucked with me a few times type of person, now. I used to be everyone's doormat, but no more. 
Maybe breaking free from religion for good, finally cured me of that.

TY for your reply. I understand you.

(August 30, 2015 at 11:14 pm)Deidre32 Wrote:

(August 30, 2015 at 11:12 pm)Beccs Wrote: I try to be decent to people when I meet them, though one of my favourite sayings is, "I tend to think negatively about people when I first meet them as it saves time later".

That's not truly how I look at people, though.  But, if you're nasty to me I tend to turn on your quickly, and vocally...

Hi Beccs 

That makes sense. So vocally, too? Interesting.

I'm thinking about this tonight, because my friends and I were chatting about it over the weekend, as to how each of us kind of deals with this type of thing a bit differently.

How ya been, doll?

It's been a while.  Life treating you well?

(August 30, 2015 at 11:15 pm)Kitan Wrote: I am the type of individual who responds to friendliness with friendliness and to rudeness with rudeness.  

Except for at work, where one is forced to unnaturally respect the idiots of the world who need to be fucking shot in the head.

Now, that's interesting. So, you give what you have received. In a way, I see nothing wrong with it...for how will anyone learn the error of their ways? I feel like I'm rewarding bad behavior if I just treat people kindly, despite their mistreatment of me. Is that your mindset?