I would say "join the queue". Then go away and reflect on my life as usual.

Why would anyone be so cruel as to say they found me repulsive when a simple "I'm not attracted to you" would do? I would assume ulterior motives. People usually don't go out of their way to hurt someone's feelings for no reason.

(September 27, 2015 at 2:58 pm)TheRocketSurgeon Wrote: It depends entirely on what kind of gay dude it is, and if he states a specific reason. If it's just a regular dude who just likes dudes, I wouldn't care about the opinion of me one way or the other. I'm just not his taste. *shrug* I'm not a "macho" guy, so if he's into macho guys, he's not going to like me. And that's okay.

But if it's accompanied with a specific, like "you have no taste in clothing, and the way you dress makes you look misshapen", for instance, then I'd probably take that to heart and try to fix it.

Of course, I'm straight and so I'd prefer to dress so women  found me attractive, rather than men, but sometimes those concepts are synonymous, since we generally take our ideas about what is attractive from culture.

My grandmother used to do that:  take it upon herself to criticize people's faults and offer unsolicited advice on what they should do differently.

Now, I will personally forgive much,
if it is said without malice,
even if I think it is socially inept, uncalled-for and even obnoxious.

It is much more difficult to smile and accept it graciously
when the person it comes from is far from perfect, themselves.

I usually just smile and say,

" Duly noted.  Thank you. "

You know, it occurs to me, as I read through the comments on this thread,
how ironic it is that Vorlon asked if we would want to know if a gay person found us unattractive...

...when there is so many SELF-deprecating comments.

(September 27, 2015 at 3:12 pm)Losty Wrote: Why would anyone be so cruel as to say they found me repulsive when a simple "I'm not attracted to you" would do? I would assume ulterior motives. People usually don't go out of their way to hurt someone's feelings for no reason.

Well, people who are too scared or insecure to tell their crushes they like them may say stuff like that instead. I don't know.

It occurred to me twice today that someone has assumed I'm not sexually attracted to gay people. Huh. Weird.

Some people seem to think it justifies handing out unwarranted judgements by saying, "Just being honest!"

Bully for you. If I asked for your opinion, then that would be relevant.

I want to know if there's something I'm unaware of about myself of some importance (such as I'm about to fall down a hole) but I don't need random opinions from people about irrelevant things, as others have said. I have had people shout out random insults quite a lot actually.

I'm so repulsive I even get mirrors pretending they don't see me.

(September 27, 2015 at 3:04 pm)MTL Wrote:

(September 27, 2015 at 1:40 pm)Pyrrho Wrote: As a general rule, I do not tell people who I find repulsive that I find them repulsive.  There is generally no need to do that.  The world has more than enough unpleasantness in it already, so why add more that serves no purpose?

 Absolutely.

A few others here have expressed similar sentiments, and I'll add my voice to it.

There is ZERO need to express a negative opinion on something unless:

A)  You were specifically asked for your opinion

B)  You're a professional movie/art/food critic, opinion columnist, or Judge, and it's your job to pass an opinion on that specific thing

C)  The thing upon which you are expressing your opinion is in some way not merely unpleasant to you,
but OFFENSIVE or damaging in some way, and something needs to be said.

D)  You are participating in a forum or blog where people specifically come to air opinions, whatever they may be...
...and even then, as Pyrrho pointed out, there's really nothing constructive being accomplished by offering a gratuitously negative opinion
on something that is hurting no-one.

I slightly disagree with what you have stated.  I think in the case of something put out for public display, like a movie, it is fine for people to express negative opinions of it.  But the personal appearance of people who do not put themselves on public display, is a matter that is normally best left alone.  Just to be clear, going to the store to get a loaf of bread, although one is then in public, is not what I mean by being out for public display.  One is then out for a loaf of bread, not someone shouting "look at me!" to the world, as is effectively being done when one makes a movie.  If someone chooses to be the focus of public attention, different rules apply than to those who do not make that choice.

(September 27, 2015 at 3:24 pm)Stimbo Wrote: I'm so repulsive I even get mirrors pretending they don't see me.

Oh quit! We have all seen your accent tag video. You can't fool us.