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RE: Do you start people at ten, or do they need to earn it?
November 24, 2017 at 3:58 pm
(November 24, 2017 at 2:50 pm)Industrial Lad Wrote: Well I often lack the confidence to initiate things. So often others have to introduce themselves. Then I'm like "OMG this cool person wants to be my friend!" Once that happens they are pretty high up on the scale. It's not that I'm unfriendly, I guess that stuff is awkward for me and I fear rejection.
I think I'm pretty much the same. People have described as 'aloof' what is really just shyness.
As a result I have a lot of difficulty making new friends IRL. But to answer the question, I usually assume a rando is a 5 unless they show some reason to change it. It's not like I actually assign number to people, though.
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RE: Do you start people at ten, or do they need to earn it?
November 24, 2017 at 4:09 pm
(November 24, 2017 at 3:18 pm)Hammy Wrote: It's not voluntary and I don't actually consciously give people number scores.
I carry them around as placards and hold them up proudly to announce scores. Some grumbling once in a while. But I'm usually pretty generous .. with a few exceptions.
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RE: Do you start people at ten, or do they need to earn it?
November 24, 2017 at 4:14 pm
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I usually start people at 6/10 or 7/10, giving them a mild benefit of a doubt and room to grow in my estimation of them as I get to know them better.
The exception is when I get a strong, creepy negative impression right off the bat. Those people start at about a 3 and I tend to be much more guarded around them.
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RE: Do you start people at ten, or do they need to earn it?
November 24, 2017 at 4:16 pm
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I dislike people from the moment I meet them.
I find it saves time.
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RE: Do you start people at ten, or do they need to earn it?
November 24, 2017 at 4:20 pm
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this is interesting...
i love people though i'm afraid of them hehe 
i usually trust people from the first meeting although i know it's risky
idon't have a rating scale....or someone i love or i hate..
it's not true that i hate people ... hehe  i love them or i'm afraid of them, that's all
i think we all deserve to be trusted....
ps. ... but if someone harms someone who i love ... better watch out!
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RE: Do you start people at ten, or do they need to earn it?
November 24, 2017 at 4:22 pm
I start people with a null. If they do something to get them on the scale I call it then. Until then they're just in the way.
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RE: Do you start people at ten, or do they need to earn it?
November 24, 2017 at 5:01 pm
(November 24, 2017 at 2:50 pm)Industrial Lad Wrote: Well I often lack the confidence to initiate things. So often others have to introduce themselves. Then I'm like "OMG this cool person wants to be my friend!" Once that happens they are pretty high up on the scale. It's not that I'm unfriendly, I guess that stuff is awkward for me and I fear rejection. hmmm.....where have i heard this?! hehe
i have the same, i lack confidence... i'm just a grey mouse
and i think that's why i'm afraid of people, except for what i've already said here i like them
"Alone is what I have. Alone protects me."
“I may be on the side of the angels but don’t think for one second that I am one of them.”
“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existence. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery each day."
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RE: Do you start people at ten, or do they need to earn it?
November 24, 2017 at 5:08 pm
I don't have a number scale. I just watch and wait to see how people act. I've had subordinates assigned to me where I was told that they were a problem child. Most times all they needed was a little room to find their own level, and they were fine. Some came to me highly recommended, only to find out that management was "passing the trash". That's an HR term for a problem child who nobody wants to get off the dime with and actually fire. They usually have a friend in upper management who will intercede for them with HR, behind my back.
I'm like Vorlon with the shit list. One has to work to get on it, because I understand that not everything a person is done out of malice. When you're on my list, you know it, because I make no bones about it. Kissing my ass doesn't work, because people think that they can fuck up big, smooch butt, and then go right back to fucking up. They have to straighten up and fly right for awhile before they have a chance to be considered for de-listing. I don't have a lot of friends, but those I do have I treasure.
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RE: Do you start people at ten, or do they need to earn it?
November 24, 2017 at 5:28 pm
(November 24, 2017 at 5:01 pm)KittyAnn Wrote: (November 24, 2017 at 2:50 pm)Industrial Lad Wrote: Well I often lack the confidence to initiate things. So often others have to introduce themselves. Then I'm like "OMG this cool person wants to be my friend!" Once that happens they are pretty high up on the scale. It's not that I'm unfriendly, I guess that stuff is awkward for me and I fear rejection. hmmm.....where have i heard this?! hehe
i have the same, i lack confidence... i'm just a grey mouse
and i think that's why i'm afraid of people, except for what i've already said here i like them
Well you're very smart, as well as nice. I bet you'll be able to have as many friends as you want, when you're ready.
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RE: Do you start people at ten, or do they need to earn it?
November 24, 2017 at 5:43 pm
I start people at pie, everyone likes pie.
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