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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 19, 2018 at 4:03 pm
(January 19, 2018 at 2:54 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: The good news is all my cats are indoor/outdoor. So they have a little pet door that allows them to go in and out as they please. It makes it a lot easier to manage because I don't have litter boxes (they go outside and bury it), and they spend a lot of time outside so it keeps the fur under control. Nonetheless I dust every day and vaccuum once a week.
The bad news is the 1 to 4 billion birds killed by domestic cats each year. They're amazing predators. Just saying.
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January 19, 2018 at 4:37 pm
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 20, 2018 at 2:13 pm
Bump.
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 20, 2018 at 3:26 pm
Buckakee!
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 20, 2018 at 5:03 pm
This thread just needs to die now lol
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 20, 2018 at 5:28 pm
Fuck it. Bump.
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January 20, 2018 at 5:29 pm
(January 20, 2018 at 5:28 pm)Shell B Wrote: Fuck it. Bump.
I love you so much Shell. 
Really, I do 
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January 20, 2018 at 7:07 pm
What’s not to love? 
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 21, 2018 at 6:14 am
A little light reading for you good folks who insist that BOTH parties should've "done better" in regards to this matters.
http://www.southernct.edu/sexual-misconduct/facts.html
An excerpt:
Quote:Why Is It Dangerous?
Victim-blaming attitudes marginalize the victim/survivor and make it harder to come forward and report the abuse. If the survivor knows that you or society blames her for the abuse, s/he will not feel safe or comfortable coming forward and talking to you.
Victim-blaming attitudes also reinforce what the abuser has been saying all along; that it is the victim’s fault this is happening. It is NOT the victim’s fault or responsibility to fix the situation; it is the abuser’s choice. By engaging in victim-blaming attitudes, society allows the abuser to perpetrate relationship abuse or sexual assault while avoiding accountability for his/her actions.
What Does Victim-Blaming Look Like?
Example of Victim-Blaming Attitude: “She must have provoked him into being abusive. They both need to change.”
Reality: This statement assumes that the victim is equally to blame for the abuse, when in reality, abuse is a conscious choice made by the abuser. Abusers have a choice in how they react to their partner’s actions. Options besides abuse include: walking away, talking in the moment, respectfully explaining why an action is frustrating, breaking up, etc. Additionally, abuse is not about individual actions that incite the abuser to hurt his partner, but rather about the abuser’s feelings of entitlement to do whatever he wants to his partner.
When friends and family remain neutral about the abuse and say that both people need to change, they are colluding with and supporting the abusive partner and making it less likely that the survivor will seek support.
It is dismissive, and indeed CLASSIC victim blaming.
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 21, 2018 at 7:23 am
To blame a victim, you actually need a victim.
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