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RE: Ask a gay
May 16, 2015 at 8:32 pm
Is your hair long or short right now?
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RE: Ask a gay
May 16, 2015 at 8:32 pm
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(May 16, 2015 at 8:29 pm)emjay Wrote: Given the choice to do it over again I'd rather have waited till college when people were more mature.
What about your parents? Were they accepting? Mine weren't but little by little I think they're getting there, my mum more than my dad though.
My father was not accepting. He eventually turned around, but his alcoholism makes it impossible for us to have a relationship.
My mother was fine with it, even though I was unable to speak with her until I was eighteen. I never contacted her until later in life, and she was perfectly fine with it; most likely because of the time we had lost to be with one another.
(May 16, 2015 at 8:32 pm)SteelCurtain Wrote: Is your hair long or short right now?
Short.
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RE: Ask a gay
May 16, 2015 at 8:46 pm
Which is worse? The religious condemning kind of homophobia, or the super masculine please-don't-stick-it-in-my-butt kind
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RE: Ask a gay
May 16, 2015 at 8:48 pm
(May 16, 2015 at 8:46 pm)Saxmoof Wrote: Which is worse? The religious condemning kind of homophobia, or the super masculine please-don't-stick-it-in-my-butt kind
The latter.
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RE: Ask a gay
May 16, 2015 at 9:00 pm
(May 16, 2015 at 8:32 pm)Kitan Wrote: (May 16, 2015 at 8:29 pm)emjay Wrote: Given the choice to do it over again I'd rather have waited till college when people were more mature.
What about your parents? Were they accepting? Mine weren't but little by little I think they're getting there, my mum more than my dad though.
My father was not accepting. He eventually turned around, but his alcoholism makes it impossible for us to have a relationship.
My mother was fine with it, even though I was unable to speak with her until I was eighteen. I never contacted her until later in life, and she was perfectly fine with it; most likely because of the time we had lost to be with one another.
I'm really sorry to hear about your dad  I know well what alcoholism can do to a person and a relationship.
I get on very well with both my parents - they love me and I love them - but it's still tense if we talk about it and I certainly couldn't parade a boyfriend in front of them. That's just the way it is and I have to accept it, but I still love them with all my heart.
Anyway it's nearly 2am for me now and I have a long Mafia game ahead of me tomorrow  , so it's time for bed. It's been really nice chatting to you, and maybe we can carry on another day? Goodnight 
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RE: Ask a gay
May 16, 2015 at 9:08 pm
(May 16, 2015 at 8:48 pm)Kitan Wrote: (May 16, 2015 at 8:46 pm)Saxmoof Wrote: Which is worse? The religious condemning kind of homophobia, or the super masculine please-don't-stick-it-in-my-butt kind
The latter.
They are probably just deep in the closet, possibly even to themselves. I personally don't worry about being around gay men and them attacking me or anything. So I think there must be something about the homophobes, that they are thinking too much about you sticking your penis in them. Either that, or they are just idiots.
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RE: Ask a gay
May 16, 2015 at 9:14 pm
There does seem to be something about masculinity that makes people personally offended somehow by other peoples lack of it, in a way that i'm not sure exists between straight women and lesbians, i don't think it's entirely down to repressed gay urges
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RE: Ask a gay
May 16, 2015 at 9:20 pm
I do not lack masculinity, but I understand to what you are referring.
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RE: Ask a gay
May 16, 2015 at 9:28 pm
What I'd like to know is why, if god has intended us to lie with other men, why didn't he give men asses as outstanding as those on women? No jiggle and wiggle? It isn't godly.
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RE: Ask a gay
May 16, 2015 at 9:28 pm
(May 16, 2015 at 9:14 pm)Saxmoof Wrote: There does seem to be something about masculinity that makes people personally offended somehow by other peoples lack of it, in a way that i'm not sure exists between straight women and lesbians, i don't think it's entirely down to repressed gay urges
It is something funny going on, whatever it is. I am relatively manly myself, and I don't have a problem with gay men. I suspect one of my neighbors of being gay, and I don't give a rat's ass whether he is or isn't. He is a fine neighbor. That is what matters to me, not what his sexual preferences are.
(My wife says he is definitely gay, and I suppose I should just accept what she says, as I have exceptionally poor gaydar. But it just does not matter enough to me to come to any conclusion about his sexuality.)
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