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May 28, 2015 at 8:36 am
(This post was last modified: May 28, 2015 at 8:39 am by wolf39us.)
So I've been with this girl for a little over 3 years. We have a loan for a car together and live together, but nothing further (by my own choice). I have no desire to marry this girl and I'm not even sure I want to marry anyone... but definitely not this girl.
I'm literally starting to feel bored.
I guess I'm having a tough time putting my finger on exactly why I don't exactly feel excited to be in a relationship with her. Have any of you ever left someone out of boredom?
[edit] Actually, maybe it's not boredom necessarily. She's just so negative and complains so damn much about everything. I complain about things too, but this woman puts me to shame. She hardly ever has a positive outlook on anything at all!
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RE: Bored
May 28, 2015 at 8:54 am
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I am confused. So you two are room mates and you share a car, and that's it? Why would you expect this "relationship" to play such a big role in your life in the first place?
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RE: Bored
May 28, 2015 at 9:05 am
(May 28, 2015 at 8:54 am)Alex K Wrote: I am confused. So you two are room mates and you share a car, and that's it? Why would you expect this "relationship" to play such a big role in your life in the first place?
We're boyfriend and girlfriend. We may as well be roommates lol
I don't know, I guess I thought I'd be more into it than I am. She moved with me from Florida to CT and we have a car together and what not... I'm almost feeling obligated to keep things going but I'm wondering personally if that's a futile effort.
Not sure how I would even go about saying to her that I'm just not "into" her I guess. I've broken up with a couple of girls before, but they were when I was a lot younger.
My 2nd girlfriend was the only girl that I truly wanted to be with, but she ended up leaving me (some of you might remember those stories lol).
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RE: Bored
May 28, 2015 at 9:12 am
Quote:We may as well be roommates lol
From what you wrote before I assumed there were no "intimate" relations going on.
Hm. Break up.
What do you think how she would take it?
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RE: Bored
May 28, 2015 at 9:23 am
(May 28, 2015 at 9:12 am)Alex K Wrote: Quote:We may as well be roommates lol
From what you wrote before I assumed there were no "intimate" relations going on.
Hm. Break up.
What do you think how she would take it?
I have no idea...
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RE: Bored
May 28, 2015 at 9:25 am
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Do you have the impression that she depends on you a lot emotionally, more than vice versa? In other words "would she be ok?"
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RE: Bored
May 28, 2015 at 9:47 am
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It sounds like you have grown apart, or have discovered you're not compatible. It has happened to me before. I've got to the point where I realized I didn't feel the same way as I used to, and I was pretty sure she didn't either. We broke up, and it was definitely the right move.
If you don't enjoy being in a relationship, there's not a lot of point being in it, in my opinion. Could you stay friends, if you did break up?
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May 28, 2015 at 9:54 am
We would almost certainly stay friends
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RE: Bored
May 28, 2015 at 9:56 am
That's good to hear 
I wouldn't suggest rushing to any decisions, and it may be worth talking it through, but I would take boredom as a very bad sign.
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RE: Bored
May 28, 2015 at 10:02 am
Wolf! Shit, man, it's been a minute. How'd the move go? How's the new job?
As far as this situation, there is something to be said about at least talking about what bothers you with her. Maybe the reason she is so negative is because she's just as bored and unhappy as you are, and regrets moving to Connecticut, and giving her an outlet to talk about it could resolve your issues and hers.
So talk about it. If you guys need to just stop dating and live together and share a car note, is that possible?
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