Alright back story;
My fiancé is Roman Catholic (not a very good one since he is living with me out of wedlock and marrying an atheist lol) as are his parents. We have never had religious problems between us. I gave him the right to raise our kids in his faith since it meant more to him than it did me. He is letting us get married outside the faith so I don't have to pretend to be anything or say I accept any of their religious rules. His parents have let us have the wedding on their land which is in itself no small contribution since it is going to be AT their house. We asked his dad to officiate the wedding and he seemed pretty honored by that. I told him that if he didn't want to go through all the legal crap to become a legal one we could get legally married the Friday before and he can just do the ceremony without the legal side of it. He said he would do the legal stuff so we could be married on the day we wanted. Everything was just peachy.
Now why I'm feeling guilty;
Saturday the soon to be in laws came over for a bit and in the convo his dad mentioned how he can't die until after the wedding. I was like uh weird thing to say but okay. Then he goes on to say how the Catholic church doesn't see their members becoming ordained ministers in a good light. How his other catholic friends were raising their eyebrows when told. He kinda laughed it off saying that after the wedding he will get out of the system and ask for forgiveness. I hadn't even thought about it being a religious thing since to me it was just a legal thing. He accepted the roll and laughed about it but now I wonder if I pressured him into it and if that was wrong for me to even ask that of him. Would having him back out of it be better or to just let it continue since it has already been accepted? I knew they were Catholic and I know it means a lot to their family I feel like I should have known better but his reaction to it keeps me at bay for feeling 100% guilty but it is nagging at me. They accept my non religious views and treat me like a daughter so I don't want to step on their toes nor insult their religion. Advice?
My fiancé is Roman Catholic (not a very good one since he is living with me out of wedlock and marrying an atheist lol) as are his parents. We have never had religious problems between us. I gave him the right to raise our kids in his faith since it meant more to him than it did me. He is letting us get married outside the faith so I don't have to pretend to be anything or say I accept any of their religious rules. His parents have let us have the wedding on their land which is in itself no small contribution since it is going to be AT their house. We asked his dad to officiate the wedding and he seemed pretty honored by that. I told him that if he didn't want to go through all the legal crap to become a legal one we could get legally married the Friday before and he can just do the ceremony without the legal side of it. He said he would do the legal stuff so we could be married on the day we wanted. Everything was just peachy.
Now why I'm feeling guilty;
Saturday the soon to be in laws came over for a bit and in the convo his dad mentioned how he can't die until after the wedding. I was like uh weird thing to say but okay. Then he goes on to say how the Catholic church doesn't see their members becoming ordained ministers in a good light. How his other catholic friends were raising their eyebrows when told. He kinda laughed it off saying that after the wedding he will get out of the system and ask for forgiveness. I hadn't even thought about it being a religious thing since to me it was just a legal thing. He accepted the roll and laughed about it but now I wonder if I pressured him into it and if that was wrong for me to even ask that of him. Would having him back out of it be better or to just let it continue since it has already been accepted? I knew they were Catholic and I know it means a lot to their family I feel like I should have known better but his reaction to it keeps me at bay for feeling 100% guilty but it is nagging at me. They accept my non religious views and treat me like a daughter so I don't want to step on their toes nor insult their religion. Advice?
