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What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 11:22 am
You have a friend. He/She is your best friend. You've been friends for a long long time and you're very dear friends.
This friend of yours have a boyfriend/girlfriend that he/she loves very much. They've been dating for more than 8 years. They are such a lovely couple hoping to get married one day. All they talk about is how many kids they're going to have, their marriage, their future, they're really in love etc.
One day you're left alone with the girlfriend/boyfriend of your best friend for a brief moment and he/she starts touching you, kissing you, feeling you up, like basically sexually assault you and immediately goes back to normal when somebody walked in.
You're shocked. This person is nothing like you had imagined and you're left with two options:
1) You tell your best friend what happened.
2) You don't tell your best friend what happened.
What will you do? Why?
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 12:09 pm
Option 1.
Though perhaps after a quick word with his gf first on "WTF just happened?"
Why would I keep something like that from a friend? Because it will hurt his feelings?
True friends are honest, even when its difficult. Especially when its difficult.
If the roles were reversed, I'd want to be told.
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 12:50 pm
Option 3: if someone sexually assaults me, I'll be making a police report. I don't know why so many people think just a bit of sexual assault is acceptable but it's not.
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 1:00 pm
I would absolutely tell my best friend.
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 1:43 pm
(October 16, 2017 at 12:50 pm)Losty Wrote: Option 3: if someone sexually assaults me, I'll be making a police report. I don't know why so many people think just a bit of sexual assault is acceptable but it's not.
LOL that was my thoughts exactly. And the only reason I'm laughing is because it's Pool and so I wasn't surprised that he made such an ignorant comment.
Seriously Pool... you're creating a hypothetical situation where someone sexually assaults you and you consider this an "ethical dilemma" it's pretty obvious that there's no real dilemma there.
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 1:49 pm
(This post was last modified: October 16, 2017 at 1:53 pm by The Grand Nudger.)
Perhaps a more salient example would be that you and your best friends girl got all slutty with each other. At least in that there's enough ambiguity to make it a difficult choice between feeling the need to absolve your own conscience of guilt and the possibility that doing so would needlessly wreck an eight year relationship, because of a kiss.
Who hasn't had their best friends girl or guy hit on them? You're all out partying, maybe she's a little tipsy....shit happens. It signifies nothing. It can be handled with a laugh and a smile "let's not do that again, okay?" - or am I missing something?
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 1:51 pm
Here's a better one: Your best friend's girl asks you in private if you'd like a blowjob.
In that case I'd tell my best friend. (After I had the blowjob of course! Joke lol).
Adding sexual assault into the equation kind of ruins what I assume is the whole point of this 'dilemma'.
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 1:54 pm
I think I'd just decline and leave it up to her and him to work out issues of trust and fidelity. Really, though, we're negotiating now. 
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 1:58 pm
I've done some things in the past I wasn't proud of. But in that case the person I 'betrayed' wasn't my best friend... or even a friend. They were someone I met ONCE. Still I felt bad, for losing my affair to a married woman (who WAS my friend) . . . but I try not to beat myself up over it as I was not only single but I was a 25 year old virgin. Still feel sorry for the guy though. I met him recently.
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RE: What will you do? (Ethical dilemma question)
October 16, 2017 at 2:00 pm
(This post was last modified: October 16, 2017 at 2:02 pm by The Grand Nudger.)
Guy should have handled his business at home, then you'd have never been n the picture. 
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