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RE: Dating advice
October 21, 2017 at 2:04 pm
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(October 21, 2017 at 8:55 am)JackRussell Wrote: Mover to the UK and date anybody; nobody gives a shite about religion anymore
If only that were true. Certainly compared to America.
But in the North East where I am... there's the chavvy people who don't care and are arseholes... and then there's the students. Who are more normal. But then there's also the church goers who want you in church.
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RE: Dating advice
October 21, 2017 at 3:03 pm
Well there are cunts everywhere mate.
Having lived in the US our cunts are not mostly religious, just racist.
Fuck em all I say.
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RE: Dating advice
October 21, 2017 at 3:04 pm
Yeah... I don't get one well with most people in RL. Lol.
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RE: Dating advice
October 21, 2017 at 6:59 pm
(October 21, 2017 at 2:04 pm)Hammy Wrote: If only that were true. Certainly compared to America.
But in the North East where I am... there's the chavvy people who don't care and are arseholes... and then there's the students. Who are more normal. But then there's also the church goers who want you in church.
Do you mean want, or want?
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RE: Dating advice
October 21, 2017 at 7:33 pm
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(October 21, 2017 at 6:59 pm)mh.brewer Wrote: (October 21, 2017 at 2:04 pm)Hammy Wrote: If only that were true. Certainly compared to America.
But in the North East where I am... there's the chavvy people who don't care and are arseholes... and then there's the students. Who are more normal. But then there's also the church goers who want you in church.
Do you mean want, or want?
I wont you to clarify this.
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RE: Dating advice
October 21, 2017 at 9:33 pm
ok, wow.... I appreciate the thoughts guys... I do, didn't think I'd get this much of a response.
ok so to address a few questions/responses.... yeah I'm 36 and did use the word "girl".... no biggie, I'll be careful to refer to them as females/ladies I guess from here.
the issue is, my ex-wife used to want me to go to church with her, it made her cry a few times that I thought it was a complete waste of time and utter hypocrisy....plus she was afraid in the end to tell her family I was not longer a "believer".... even after 11 years. Little backstory, when we dated, her parent's were sooo religious, I wasn't even allowed in the house!! anyway, little sore spot there. keep in mind, my prior episodes of believing actually had nothing to do with her, I wanted friends, good friends, and I thought I'd find it in "a church".... (I was dead wrong there, don't get me wrong, theres good and bad people in everything, religion or not). anyway, it wasn't just communication, we wanted to have kids, she wanted her kids to have the bible read to them, she wanted it to be like a tradition to have the christmas story, and wanted them in church....I was ok with the exposure to christianity, but I didn't not want them "required to" go to anything, and she did. Funny thing, after 2 years of trying to have kids, we never got pregnant....there has got to be some serendipity there..... anyway this lady that I am dating now, she asked me if we lived together, could she have religious stuff on the walls, like she as talking about house decor and stuff, and I was like I guess...but I'm not really big into it....plus she asked me quite a few times like "can I just consider her views".... she & I have talked about it, I told her about my marriage stuff, and well that I'm pretty staunch against it...and that I'll never step foot in a church again, and she respects that. IT's just there is a part of me that feels like there should be some shared belief in this, like can we really be successful if we both have these fundamental differences?? I am encouraged by your guys responses (and laughed my ass off with the catholic guy experience!!),it's good to know that if you love somebody it can work out, but having kids,---are you saying that it brings people together with different beliefs or separates them?? I do really like this girl, but honestly if I found somebody that was her without being a believer, I think I'd shit my pants and jump all over it. idk, though....just a little lost I guess....
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RE: Dating advice
October 21, 2017 at 10:37 pm
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Wait...
If you're 36, and a physician as you say in your intro thread, how did you find the time to go to schooling to be a teacher and actually perform that job, and also go to college to be a chemist and perform that job AND go back to school to enter into medical school, complete a residency program and take your exams to get licensed - all before the age of 36?
Inquiring minds wanna know.
Oh - and a little FYI here. Ellipses aren't supposed to be a substitute for periods at the ends of sentences. If that wasn't your goal - that is one long ass run on sentence you have up there.
/grammar Nazi off now.
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RE: Dating advice
October 22, 2017 at 10:28 am
(October 21, 2017 at 9:33 pm)seandiggy Wrote: ok, wow.... I appreciate the thoughts guys... I do, didn't think I'd get this much of a response.
ok so to address a few questions/responses.... yeah I'm 36 and did use the word "girl".... no biggie, I'll be careful to refer to them as females/ladies I guess from here.
the issue is, my ex-wife used to want me to go to church with her, it made her cry a few times that I thought it was a complete waste of time and utter hypocrisy....plus she was afraid in the end to tell her family I was not longer a "believer".... even after 11 years. Little backstory, when we dated, her parent's were sooo religious, I wasn't even allowed in the house!! anyway, little sore spot there. keep in mind, my prior episodes of believing actually had nothing to do with her, I wanted friends, good friends, and I thought I'd find it in "a church".... (I was dead wrong there, don't get me wrong, theres good and bad people in everything, religion or not). anyway, it wasn't just communication, we wanted to have kids, she wanted her kids to have the bible read to them, she wanted it to be like a tradition to have the christmas story, and wanted them in church....I was ok with the exposure to christianity, but I didn't not want them "required to" go to anything, and she did. Funny thing, after 2 years of trying to have kids, we never got pregnant....there has got to be some serendipity there..... anyway this lady that I am dating now, she asked me if we lived together, could she have religious stuff on the walls, like she as talking about house decor and stuff, and I was like I guess...but I'm not really big into it....plus she asked me quite a few times like "can I just consider her views".... she & I have talked about it, I told her about my marriage stuff, and well that I'm pretty staunch against it...and that I'll never step foot in a church again, and she respects that. IT's just there is a part of me that feels like there should be some shared belief in this, like can we really be successful if we both have these fundamental differences?? I am encouraged by your guys responses (and laughed my ass off with the catholic guy experience!!),it's good to know that if you love somebody it can work out, but having kids,---are you saying that it brings people together with different beliefs or separates them?? I do really like this girl, but honestly if I found somebody that was her without being a believer, I think I'd shit my pants and jump all over it. idk, though....just a little lost I guess....
For someone with a PhD your grammar is terrible! Not picking on you....just have my bullshit detector on high alert.
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RE: Dating advice
October 22, 2017 at 9:00 pm
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wow...
so no, I have not completed my residency, I'm in it currently. and yes it is totally possible to do all those careers, obviously not for very long, but I did them (and no chimp3 not a PhD), and fuck if I give anymore of a shit to actually type or respond to anyone else about it. I got on here looking for some genuine dating advice not to be put under the microscope of suspicion....
thanks for those that put out genuine open responses...
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RE: Dating advice
October 22, 2017 at 10:41 pm
(October 21, 2017 at 9:33 pm)seandiggy Wrote: [edit]
...she asked me if we lived together, could she have religious stuff on the walls, like she as talking about house decor and stuff, and I was like I guess...
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Tell her that you should get equal time and space. Then show her these:
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