Saying Thanks

[onlinebiker]

When someone does you a favor how do you show your thanks?

The one I always get is "Let me buy you dinner".



Truth is - I don't really enjoy social dining. Never have. I find it to be a pain in the ass. It's a bunch of arbitrary rules put together to make people think they're really getting their money's worth.... Don't tell me "wrong gork"... Fuck that... I'll use an icepick if it gets the job done.

But I digress.

I just don't like it. That doesn't however stop people - people who know me well - from making the damned offer.

Ok - I fixed your _________ (fill in blank). Bring me something I can use and appreciate. A rick of firewood. A block of aluminum. Some welding wire.
Ammo is always good. Any caliber. If I don't have it I will know somebody who does.

It's the thought that counts. 

And I don't have to dress up.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

I’m generally ok with people just saying ‘thank you’ and appearing to mean it.

Boru

[onlinebiker]

I’m generally ok with people just saying ‘thank you’ and appearing to mean it.

Boru

That is a great one.....

And "You are welcome"- very welcome- or other variant of welcome is the response I give.


I suddenly quit feeling grateful when I thank someone and they answer "No problem"

Really?

If there wasn't a problem - you didn't really help- so get the fuck outta my driveway
.......

[Gawdzilla Sama]

Sounds like the best thing to do is to take off and nuke you from orbit.

[onlinebiker]

The Ripley Solution - always in the top 10....

[no one]

I will only accept their first born.

[Gawdzilla Sama]

The Ripley Solution - always in the top 10....

#1.

[arewethereyet]

A genuine thank you is plenty. Helping someone out should be done because you want to do it and not because you expect something in return. It's not really a favor if you are keeping count of who owes who what. Unfortunately too many people do expect quid pro quo so it seems to be the norm.

The best thank you is knowing the person will chip in, if they can, when you need a favor.

I am also not a fan of dining out and it's something I do maybe twice a year though COVID may reduce that to zero.

[onlinebiker]

A genuine thank you is plenty.  Helping someone out should be done because you want to do it and not because you expect something in return. It's not really a favor if you are keeping count of who owes who what.  Unfortunately too many people do expect quid pro quo so it seems to be the norm.

The best thank you is knowing the person will chip in, if they can, when you need a favor.

I am also not a fan of dining out and it's something I do maybe twice a year though COVID may reduce that to zero.

I once proposed that the construct of dining together was an arbitrary convention based on biological need.

It could have just as easily been based on elemination rather than intake.

You'd be surprised how many people will construct elaborate emotionally charged arguements based on nothing but their bias as to why it is not a possibility.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

A genuine thank you is plenty.  Helping someone out should be done because you want to do it and not because you expect something in return. It's not really a favor if you are keeping count of who owes who what.  Unfortunately too many people do expect quid pro quo so it seems to be the norm.

The best thank you is knowing the person will chip in, if they can, when you need a favor.

I am also not a fan of dining out and it's something I do maybe twice a year though COVID may reduce that to zero.

Agreed. Unless it’s some sort of pre-arranged barter, there’s no reason to expect or offer anything other than sincere thanks.

Boru