Your Ideal Relationship Arrangement

[Thumpalumpacus]

I think you're imagining it incorrectly.  

I didn't mean a literal sultan-like harem.

I meant a dozen or so people with their own lives, incomes, etc, who loved meeting up with you for company and sex whenever you wanted, however you wanted.  And whatever else you wanted.  A roster of highly attractive people who only and exclusively cared about you and desired whatever you desired.

AQ lot of the pleasure I get out of a loving relationship is doing thing for the others to make them happy. A roster of people who only attended to my pleasures isn't a loving relationship, even if they loved me. A loving relationship goes both ways.

[The Grand Nudger]

I wonder sometimes to what extent perceived differences between men and women on this issue comes down to just two things - neither of which being a differential in desire.

One being societal expectations, obvs. It's okay for a guy to have more than one partner, even cheat. Its expected, for reasons that must only be clear to male cheaters.

The other being specific to being female. If I tell a girl we're not going to be exclusive, or I tell her we aren't after some fact of her thinking we were..what's she gonna do? Cry about it? Shit talk about me to other people? Slash a tire? Don't get me wrong. Plenty of girls could absolutely fuck up plenty of boys - but for the most part, they don't even try. If you're a female though. Maybe a murder. Multiply that by however many men are in the "harem" situation.

I can believe that at least some number of guys genuinely want it - I assume a similar number of females do too..but I bet more men than do say they do, and fewer females than do say they do - for reasons that run the gamut.

[arewethereyet]

I still don't understand this constant desire for sex when FF has said that sex isn't all that satisfying. Add to that the specification of sex with BEAUTIFUL people.

- I don't really care for that, may I have some more? Seems an odd approach.

[Thumpalumpacus]

All I know is I've had enough trouble keeping one woman happy, I sure don't want to multiply my difficulties.

[arewethereyet]

All I know is I've had enough trouble keeping one woman happy, I sure don't want to multiply my difficulties.

Yeah, I have no need to complicate things.

[Angrboda]

Now that baseball season is over, I guess it's back to just me and my beer.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

The chief issue with polyamory is that it greatly increases the chance of this happening:

---

---

Boru

[Gawdzilla Sama]

You've never had a basket fuck in Rio.

True, I haven't, lol
But I suspect I would be unsatisfied.  I don't have many nerve endings.

That's what you think right now...

[FrustratedFool]

I still don't understand this constant desire for sex when FF has said that sex isn't all that satisfying.  Add to that the specification of sex with BEAUTIFUL people.

- I don't really care for that, may I have some more?  Seems an odd approach.

Just because something is unsatisfying doesn't it isn't pleasant or desirable.

I find junk food ultimately unsatisfying.  I still like it.
I pretty much find everything unsatisfying.

[The Valkyrie]

I wonder sometimes to what extent perceived differences between men and women on this issue comes down to just two things - neither of which being a differential in desire.

One being societal expectations, obvs. It's okay for a guy to have more than one partner, even cheat. Its expected, for reasons that must only be clear to male cheaters.

The other being specific to being female. If I tell a girl we're not going to be exclusive, or I tell her we aren't after some fact of her thinking we were..what's she gonna do? Cry about it? Shit talk about me to other people? Slash a tire? Don't get me wrong. Plenty of girls could absolutely fuck up plenty of boys - but for the most part, they don't even try. If you're a female though. Maybe a murder. Multiply that by however many men are in the "harem" situation.

I can believe that at least some number of guys genuinely want it - I assume a similar number of females do too..but I bet more men than do say they do, and fewer females than do say they do - for reasons that run the gamut.

Murder?

Nah.

Emasculate him with my teeth?

Yup!