Damn my libido!

[Whateverist]

The thing about the self depreciatingly humorous personal add is it shows some confidence while putting it out there that shy might be an issue. Could work.

[NoraBrimstone]

Maybe I shouldn't be taking this whole 'shed the V-word' shtick personally

And gents... the moment you can afford yourself a trip to Denton, TX: you have yourself a shot at a nonhorrible first sexual experience.

You can even take Virgin Airlines!

Or Virgin Trains. (But don't, they're my company's biggest rival)

I personally have Virgin TV and Internet.

[Zen Badger]

Yeah, I had a libido once.

Worse car Ford ever built. And you couldn't get parts for the bloody thing either.

[littleendian]

I thought that was the reason but now I know that it's not. It's merely that no one is interested in me.

The impression I get from your posts is that you lack confidence. And confidence is probably 99% of what will get a guy laid. There's no way around it other than changing your mindset. As Chuck said, get out there and give it a shot. You may strike out miserably, but you'll learn that failing isn't the end of the world and you'll begin to build confidence. At least in part, you'll build it because you'll realize that a lot of people lack confidence.

That plus get hobbies that distract you, if you're busy (a) you'll forget your libido and (b) you'll likely be among people of which © there might be females which (d) might get interested in you, hence fixing your libido issue once and for all

I recommend Aikido, there's plenty of most charming women practicing that. But dance lessons are probably even better if you're not a complete klutz like me.

[edit] Oh and learn the guitar, it's got the best cost-over-getting-laid ratio of them all.

[Kayenneh]

I recommend Aikido, there's plenty of most charming women practicing that.

Damn straight!

*Kay flashes proudly her ikkyu belt*

[littleendian]

I recommend Aikido, there's plenty of most charming women practicing that.

Damn straight!

*Kay flashes proudly her ikkyu belt*

q.e.d

[Rahul]

You just have to get your first over with. After that it'll be much easier for you.

Post an ad on Craigslist or some similar site saying you need a woman to take your virginity. That should draw a response.

[Edwardo Piet]

I don't know, man. Just saying "no one's interested in me" doesn't really get us any closer to being able to provide solutions.

That's true. But they aren't; do you have any ideas how I can get you closer to providing soulutions?

The best response to that is "make yourself interesting," but that does you no good.

True. Besides I've tried that. First of all it's false and I'm usually more interesting when I'm not trying to be, secondly no girl finds me interesting either way anyway.

Why do you think women aren't interested in you?

Because they never show it and reject me if I ever show it to them. Because they always have a reason to not talk or do anything with me.

Because they say "I don't like you that way".

"You're just a friend to me".

"You're not my type".

"Just so you know, we're only ever going to be friends and that's it".

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Even if you are ugly, (I don't know if you are or not) there will be someone out there that is interested in you. You have to make an effort to go out and meet people. Make friends. Widen your social circle and the world will open up to you.

It would actually help if I had any idea how attractive or unattractive I was. It could explain something.

I do make an effort. Everyone turns me down.

I have friends. But no close friends. I never visit anyone and they never visit me.

I am widening my social circle, but every friend seems to see me in this exact same way.

[Anomalocaris]

True. Besides I've tried that. First of all it's false and I'm usually more interesting when I'm not trying to be, secondly no girl finds me interesting either way anyway.

What did you try? Why are you not still trying something else?

Why do you think women aren't interested in you?

Because they never show it and reject me if I ever show it to them. Because they always have a reason to not talk or do anything with me.

You only need a very few who would be different.

Because they say "I don't like you that way".

If they are really totally not interested, why would they bother to tell you this?

"You're just a friend to me".

"You're not my type".

"Just so you know, we're only ever going to be friends and that's it".

So what have you got to lose if you persist?

It would actually help if I had any idea how attractive or unattractive I was. It could explain something.

You think women are objectively analytical machines with secret ability to reference some absolute scale of attractivenss?

I do make an effort. Everyone turns me down.

Make two efforts, or three, or four. If they are really not interested in you, then they are no good for you, and there is no point to being afriad to piss them off or avoid being rejected by them.

I have friends. But no close friends. I never visit anyone and they never visit me.

What do you do when you are around your friends? Why not find more opportunities to get together to do them?

I am widening my social circle, but every friend seems to see me in this exact same way.

Maybe that's because you are subconciously presenting the same side of yourself to them all. Start finding more sides to yourself and reveal them. It's a trial and error process.


There are 3 billion women in the world. You only need one that works for you.

[Edwardo Piet]

True. Besides I've tried that. First of all it's false and I'm usually more interesting when I'm not trying to be, secondly no girl finds me interesting either way anyway.

What did you try?

I don't remember. I just try behaving differently and talking differently and wearing different things, etc. Speaking more, speaking less. Everything.

Why are you not still trying something else?

I am half the time trying something else. The other half I'm just sticking to being myself.

Why do you think women aren't interested in you?

You only need a few to be different.

I need more than a few, a few won't last long.

If they are really totally not interested, why would they bother to tell you this?

Because I told them I was interested first.

So what have you got to lose to persist?

I don't want to stalk them. I don't want to be creepy. No means no and they keep saying no even when I only asked once and so they only needed to say it once. I reply saying "I know you don't like me, you've told me. Once is enough, you don't have to keep saying it".

You think women are objectively analytical machines with secret ability to reference some absolute scale of attractivenss?

No. I just think some people are more likely to attract people than others. I seem to fall into the very unlikely category.

Make two efforts, or three.

I make them all the time.

If they are really not interested in you, then there is no point to not piss them off.

Why would I ever want to piss anyone off? Especially people I like. In fact, I specifically don't persist because I don't want to piss them off; even more importantly don't want to get into trouble or get a bad reputation.

What do you do when you are around your friends?

Chat mostly.

Maybe that's because you are subconciously presenting the same side of yourself to them all. Start finding more sides to yourself.

I am the same with people usually because I try to treat people equally. I am obviously a bit different with people I like. But I've tried being different and not different, I have tried trying different sides and not.

You know me, I am a very deep thinker. I've thought these things through, I seem to have tried everything. But I can't have done. Unless I truly am hopeless.