"I may be fat, but I beat my eating disorder"

[paulpablo]

I think you're wrong because I don't think this single message is designed to be for everyone to listen to, it's just for a specific set of people with eating disorders and an unhealthy workout obsession.

There's loads of stuff that annoys me about the website but the health message isn't one of them because I don't think it's designed to be followed as a universal health message.
And just because a girl isn't good at the bleep test or able to do a pull up doesn't mean she is unhealthy unless you're defining health as purely athletic functionality. Which is an understandable definition of health, but usually when people talk about health it's a more broader definition.

This is just my opinion based on the information given. She doesn't seem to specify on the website what her diet is now, what exercise she does now (beyond a bit of dancing).

The main thing I do find annoying about the website is the title, redefining beauty.
It wasn't defined objectively because it's subjective anyway, and a girl losing weight then gaining it back and taking lots of selfies isn't going to change that.
I personally do like non athletic girls, size 8-14, just because I don't like muscles on a girl but too much fat disgusts me.
Her amount of fat isn't too much in my humble opinion but I'd say she should strictly maintain to that level and not put on more weight, it's what I'd call chubby. When you reach size 16 in my opinion that's fat.

[Nope]

My ideal man would be a very dark skinned or tanned man with a six pack and well defined arms. My ideal woman would be Selma Hayek in Dusk to Dawn. That is my fantasy. I married a man who is the total opposite of that fantasy and find him extremely attractive.

Most people, I believe, are like me. There might be an ideal body type that the individual finds attractive and likes to view but they often marry and are very happy with someone who does not fit that ideal.

For some reason, many people think that a person's fantasy individual is the person that they would gravitate toward in real life. I don't think that is always true. Attraction isn't just physical. Many things form part of why someone is sexually attractive to another person. My husband's humor and just overall kind personality is why I find him sexually attractive.

Women sometimes absorb a negative message that their worth is tied in with their looks, youth and ability to attract a man. Modern media tends to promote a very narrow view of what is sexually attractive in a woman. It is all well and good to say that women should ignore those messages but it can be difficult when you are young. Also, people make very negative comments to both overweight and underweight people that can be very hurtful

[Thumpalumpacus]

For some reason, many people think that a person's fantasy individual is the person that they would gravitate toward in real life. I don't think that is always true. Attraction isn't just physical. Many things form part of why someone is sexually attractive to another person. My husband's humor and just overall kind personality is why I find him sexually attractive.

This is what I've learnt about myself, over the years -- that physical attraction doesn't seem to be as intense when the interpersonal attractors are tepid -- and that sexy comes from inside.

[The Grand Nudger]

LOL....just because

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[DramaQueen]

I'm fat, I lost a lot of weight and shit was good and then came the Ramadan of 2013 (I gained 20 kilograms because of it).

Anyway, I kinda agree. It's a bit like smokers saying cigarettes are good.

[bennyboy]

This is great news. If fat is beautiful, I'm getting slightly more beautiful each year.

[The Valkyrie]

This is great news. If fat is beautiful, I'm getting slightly more beautiful each year.

I keep getting told I'm too thin - not anorexic thin, just thin - so I eat a little more to put on some extra weight and then I exercise more and don't put any on.

[Violet]

Far more people die every year due to obesity and issues relating directly to being overweight than they do to being underweight. I'd like to see any study that suggests otherwise.

Starvation is probably a more egregious problem with the world than the enabling of excess.

http://www.wfp.org/hunger/stats

There's something, you said you wanted to see it, after all.

For counter, http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs311/en/

"65% of the world's population live in countries where overweight and obesity kills more people than underweight."

So, yes and no, on face value alone. I disagree that "65%" is "far more"... it's opinion though, and it is utterly arbitrary: both are responsible for millions of unnecessary deaths and billions of illnesses each year...

And both are utterly preventable (save disease-given/malfunctionary). But for that, society itself needs to change... and it abhors change.

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The fact that she has worked to gain weight, and is declared a fat sow by others... until she starts to bitterly believe it herself...?

That's the cruelest thing in her post... it's the raison d'etre of the whole thing... and it's the ignorance of this in your post that most stands out. It's somewhat hilarious to see that this was the utter point of what she said... and it was pointing directly at you.

'I may be 'fat', but I beat my eating disorder.' This is about the perception of others, human social psychology... that she had an eating disorder is but an aside; a symptom of a problem alarmingly prevalent in our society in general. This is how people make her feel, driving her back again and again with their judgmental projections of what is.

It's just, so hilariously over your head, Nappy

[John V]

The After pic isn't fat, it's pretty hot. Women should have some curves.

[Alex K]

The After pic isn't fat, it's pretty hot. Women should have some curves.

Finally, you're making some sense for once