Your views on MARRIAGE

[Esquilax]

What I meant was that that part of it, to me, was the real marriage... and that is what mattered. My husband and I got our marriage license 2 weeks before our actual wedding, but we didn't consider ourselves married until we actually made those promises to each other before God.

Don't marriage licenses need to be solemnized and submitted to the government to be made official anyway? If that's the case where you are, you literally weren't married until your officiant signed the document anyway.

Interestingly, my case is the exact opposite of yours; my wife and I have been legally married for months now, without the input of a religious entity (we got married in a state that allows couples to handle the paperwork side themselves without needing a registered officiant, so we kinda married ourselves) but we haven't yet had a ceremony. We're going to, but in the meantime I'm still her husband, and she's still my wife.

You are incorrect in your assertion of me. When my husband and I got married, he was still a college student, and I had a restaurant job. We didn't start making any real money until my husband joined the Air Force as a pilot 3 years after we got married. Our reason for getting married had nothing to do with financial gain because neither one of us had any money at the time.

I feel like Rhythm was responding to the part where you noted that the church only marries legally married people, and not intimating that you got married for the government perks?

[Napoléon]

Um, if my husband cheated on me (which he never will, btw)

A little presumptuous to know of god's plans.

[Catholic_Lady]

Um, if my husband cheated on me (which he never will, btw)

A little presumptuous to know of god's plans.

Oh shut yo mouth, Napoleon. You just think you're all that, now that you got a tan.

[Aoi Magi]

Um, if my husband cheated on me (which he never will, btw)

What if he is the one to get cheated?

[Thumpalumpacus]

Whether the unions be between 1 men and multiple women, 1 women and multiple men, multiple men, or multiple women, should unions between more than 2 people be recognized by the government as marriage?

I'm monogamous and I don't like sharing My Prrrrecioussss with someone else, so even if the authority recognized polygamy, I would never recognize it.

Yeah, I don't think I'm able to handle that sort of thing emotionally.

[Catholic_Lady]

What I meant was that that part of it, to me, was the real marriage... and that is what mattered. My husband and I got our marriage license 2 weeks before our actual wedding, but we didn't consider ourselves married until we actually made those promises to each other before God.

Don't marriage licenses need to be solemnized and submitted to the government to be made official anyway? If that's the case where you are, you literally weren't married until your officiant signed the document anyway.

Interestingly, my case is the exact opposite of yours; my wife and I have been legally married for months now, without the input of a religious entity (we got married in a state that allows couples to handle the paperwork side themselves without needing a registered officiant, so we kinda married ourselves) but we haven't yet had a ceremony. We're going to, but in the meantime I'm still her husband, and she's still my wife.

You are incorrect in your assertion of me. When my husband and I got married, he was still a college student, and I had a restaurant job. We didn't start making any real money until my husband joined the Air Force as a pilot 3 years after we got married. Our reason for getting married had nothing to do with financial gain because neither one of us had any money at the time.

I feel like Rhythm was responding to the part where you noted that the church only marries legally married people, and not intimating that you got married for the government perks?

You might be right about that, actually lol. It's been 5 years so I might remember differently. I don't remember when our priest signed our papers, but I definitely know it did not happen during our wedding ceremony. I just know there are 2 processes - the church wedding and the government recognition of being legally married. We did not consider ourselves married until the moment we said "I do" in church.

Hm... perhaps that's what he meant. I took it a different way.

[rado84]

Yeah, I don't think I'm able to handle that sort of thing emotionally.

It's not so much about emotions as it is about a gigantic dose of selfishness.

[Thumpalumpacus]

A little presumptuous to know of god's plans.

Oh shut yo mouth, Napoleon. You just think you're all that, now that you got a tan.

Okay, I loled.

[Catholic_Lady]

Oh shut yo mouth, Napoleon. You just think you're all that, now that you got a tan.

Okay, I loled.

He needs to change his username to DeShawn now.

[Thumpalumpacus]

Yeah, I don't think I'm able to handle that sort of thing emotionally.

It's not so much about emotions as it is about a gigantic dose of selfishness.

I hear you, that's pretty much it for me as well.

I lived and loved with a bisexual woman for years. I never really cared for strip clubs, but she liked them on occasion, so every so often we'd go to one in Los Angeles after dinner. Because she was often the only woman in such places, the dancers would always give us much attention, and we talked a few times about bringing one home with us, but decided against it for fear of damaging or destroying our relationship. And for my part, part of that fear was based on the simple fact that I can't share my woman with another lover.