Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?

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I've actually found being truthful led me to what I consider true love, in a roundabout way.

I've never been someone that females naturally gravitate towards, and I've never sought to change that by changing myself. What I mean by that is I don't look at others and say, "Wow, he's getting some attention because of [reasons], I'll try that!" I want someone to like me for me, or not at all. Of course I'm naturally going to change over time, but I wasn't going to do things just to get more attention.

I also discovered, through various relationships, more and more about the truth of myself, and what I can and can't tolerate in a relationship. By the time I met my (now) wife, I had a very clear list of criteria and I put myself out there via online dating with these all totally up front. (None were superficial by the way.) That meant that I wasn't wasting my time, or anyone else's, with people who I knew it wouldn't work out with. Some things I realized I just can't compromise on, and I saw no point being with someone for a year or whatever, then trying to hash out the issue with them. It's not fair on either of us.

I found in my wife exactly what I was looking for, and found love I'm not saying she is the only person in the world I could have ended up with, I don't believe in that stuff, but I do know I made the right decision being incredibly selective. Some people might have called me petty, arrogant, anything they liked. I didn't care. I'd rather be with the right person for me, or not bother.