Beliefs, Significant Others and Compromises

[Bob Kelso]

I got married today, and it was absolutely perfect (imo) but there was one thing that got me thinking tonight and since I'm too amped up to sleep I thought I'd come visit the forum about it. 

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If you had differing beliefs with your partner, would you allow or participate with the religious aspects of their choice at important events? 

I did. The man that officiated our wedding is a deep south minister whose personality can best be described as having that classic black church soul 24/7-if you've ever seen a predominately black church ceremony then you know what I'm on about- who was genuinely one of the nicest guys I've ever met. He was accepting of my lack of belief, and never once gave me the feeling that he was being judgmental. We discussed how the ceremony would go down and I gave the go ahead for my wife to have whatever religious references she wanted. 

For clarification; she's what I'd call a Christian Deist who masquerades as a True Christian® to keep certain people in her family from having a conniption fit that she doesn't believe as she does. I don't agree with the charade but it's her choice. 

As I see it, she included the religious aspects to please the vast majority of our friends and family and I'm fine with that. They're her beliefs (sort of) and since I don't see it as any skin off my bones I didn't mind. My only stipulation was that I wouldn't personally invoke any gods, and that I wasn't spoken for in that manner by the pastor (who readily respected my line in the sand). 

Would you have done the same? Why or why not?


Note: pardon me if this isn't worded in a proper fashion, I'm a bit tipsy.