Congratulations on getting married!
Compromise is very important. I think it's okay for people to practice things they don't necessarily believe in for the sake of someone they love. My brother got married in a church because his wife's family pushed that they get married in one. My brother doesn't really believe in god much himself, but he agreed to it because even though he and his wife didn't want to marry in a church, they did it for her family. I'd say one of the good things about a lack of belief is that you don't have to worry about doing something against your beliefs resulting in some divine punishment. Of course it's good to have boundaries. Committing an oath to a god you don't believe in can feel like fraud.
My husband and I share beliefs, but we both agree to keep it on the downlow because he has family that think the worst of Atheists. Granted, I wouldn't really call it a charade because it's not like we go to church or say "Praise God" or anything like that. We just don't mention that we don't believe around his family. Sometimes it's easier that way when dealing with family. Many believers aren't understanding, and people don't want to cut ties. Even if it doesn't seem like it's worth it in the end. It really depends on how far you have to go. Everyone has their limits. That's why compromise is important. Both sides have to find an area where neither side is pushed past their limits.
I hope you and your wife have a long and happy marriage!
Compromise is very important. I think it's okay for people to practice things they don't necessarily believe in for the sake of someone they love. My brother got married in a church because his wife's family pushed that they get married in one. My brother doesn't really believe in god much himself, but he agreed to it because even though he and his wife didn't want to marry in a church, they did it for her family. I'd say one of the good things about a lack of belief is that you don't have to worry about doing something against your beliefs resulting in some divine punishment. Of course it's good to have boundaries. Committing an oath to a god you don't believe in can feel like fraud.
My husband and I share beliefs, but we both agree to keep it on the downlow because he has family that think the worst of Atheists. Granted, I wouldn't really call it a charade because it's not like we go to church or say "Praise God" or anything like that. We just don't mention that we don't believe around his family. Sometimes it's easier that way when dealing with family. Many believers aren't understanding, and people don't want to cut ties. Even if it doesn't seem like it's worth it in the end. It really depends on how far you have to go. Everyone has their limits. That's why compromise is important. Both sides have to find an area where neither side is pushed past their limits.
I hope you and your wife have a long and happy marriage!
