(September 6, 2015 at 12:57 am)Starvald Demelain Wrote: As I see it, she included the religious aspects to please the vast majority of our friends and family and I'm fine with that. They're her beliefs (sort of) and since I don't see it as any skin off my bones I didn't mind. My only stipulation was that I wouldn't personally invoke any gods, and that I wasn't spoken for in that manner by the pastor (who readily respected my line in the sand).Bold Mine
First off Congrats!
I think your "line in the sand" is an important point in compromise. Each person needs to let the other know where that line is and what they consider "crossing it". If you can't set those boundaries then it becomes a shaky compromise.
My wife is Catholic, but only in up bringing. She does believe in god. Our compromise is that we can discuss our different beliefs but not attack or change a discussion into a debate. We do like to tease each other and sometimes the tease will hit close to the line. If one of us does come to close, we both have a look we use to let the other know to back off. Occasionally we'll use a very sarcastic "Really?" to get the point across.
If I let my atheism stand in the way of a relationship in this part of the world (marriage/business/friendship) for all intensive purposes I'd be a hermit.
Being told you're delusional does not necessarily mean you're mental.
