(October 11, 2015 at 10:13 am)TheRocketSurgeon Wrote:(October 11, 2015 at 9:58 am)ponhei9502 Wrote: mind the sarcasm.
Just had to quote that part... you're gonna fit right in, here.
I don't have much advice to offer you, I'm afraid, other than what was already offered. Don't lose your trust in her simply because she's in an emotionally-vulnerable place. Just be supportive... sometimes, people have to come before ideologies. Love her a little more than usual, and be there for her. In time she will see their manipulation for what it is, most likely, and will see that you didn't try to push things on her when she was in a vulnerable place. On the other hand, if she goes "full braindead" on the faith-tradition of her youth, there's not much you can do except to let her decide if she is willing to fight against that indoctrination to be with you... or not. If not, then she is doing you a favor by showing you that you're not as important to her as her own family, and in which case, why would you want to make a new family with her?
That's not to say it won't be emotionally traumatizing and painful for you to let go of your hopes for this relationship, when the time comes, but don't surrender in-advance.
Good luck! You're going to have to be very strong.
Happy to hear I'll fit well! Look forward to investing some time here.
That honestly helps a lot. If I can help her through this hopefully she'll realise how manipulative her parents are. I'm from Sweden so I've never seen anything like this before in my whole life before. Manipulating someone when they're this vulnerable with your religious dogma. That person being my girlfriend as well? Makes it difficult to contain my frustration. Could contribute to why this hit me so hard. I'm definitely going to follow your advice though.
I really can't express how much I appreciate all of your inputs. Can't imagine I would've gotten this level of quality if I had gone to yahoo answers.
