RE: Can someone help me? I'm trying to open my mind to new ideas about Refugees
November 29, 2015 at 8:26 am
(This post was last modified: November 29, 2015 at 8:31 am by Thumpalumpacus.)
First, Becca made a goddamned good moderator. You insulted her and refused to simply apologize. Great. Don't get butthurt that she doesn't like you. She's a good gal and your beef with her is getting old. You have this really bad habit of attacking her personally rather than answering her points, which rather feeds the anti-feminist view of you that got implanted by your first interactions in this forum. You've come around to being decent with me and a couple of others, but you can't answer her questions without laying personal attacks?
Listen, I've gone through a lot of my life feeling like I was never good enough, and I can recognize this sort of behavior by now. Forgive me for playing the Gramps card, but by fifty years old, I know what the hell I'm seeing.
I think you're uncomfortable crediting yourself with what intelligence you have. I think you take criticism too close to heart. I think that you hammer yourself hard, perhaps because someone else in your life has done so as well.
You're not a dumb guy, that is clear. You are obviously troubled; you're prone to outbursts of violent emotion that ward people off, even online. I'm willing to bet that irl you are more careful about expressing those hot emotions, but that doesn't bring you any closer to people -- which is probably another frustration.
Be yourself. Consider the feelings of others as you'd wish them to consider your own. Learn what fascinates you in order to fill in blank spots in your curiosity. Take the chip off your shoulder; don't be so defensive. No one can hurt you here, anyway.
(November 29, 2015 at 7:21 am)DespondentFishdeathMasochismo Wrote:(November 28, 2015 at 10:53 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: Yeah, it was decent. And if DF is reading this, I just want to say that saying "you felt dumb" was a bummer. Finding blind spots in your knowledge is a good thing. That's where learning begins. Don't get disheartened; it's an opportunity, not just another reason to self-criticize.
Very wise. I have a sort of deep feeling of dissatisfaction with my intelligence a lot. I often wish that I could be way more intelligent than I am, it's refreshing to see someone say something like this.
Listen, I've gone through a lot of my life feeling like I was never good enough, and I can recognize this sort of behavior by now. Forgive me for playing the Gramps card, but by fifty years old, I know what the hell I'm seeing.
I think you're uncomfortable crediting yourself with what intelligence you have. I think you take criticism too close to heart. I think that you hammer yourself hard, perhaps because someone else in your life has done so as well.
You're not a dumb guy, that is clear. You are obviously troubled; you're prone to outbursts of violent emotion that ward people off, even online. I'm willing to bet that irl you are more careful about expressing those hot emotions, but that doesn't bring you any closer to people -- which is probably another frustration.
Be yourself. Consider the feelings of others as you'd wish them to consider your own. Learn what fascinates you in order to fill in blank spots in your curiosity. Take the chip off your shoulder; don't be so defensive. No one can hurt you here, anyway.
