What sucks due to my religion (for me).

[Brian37]

So I was invited by a girl I really like to go somewhere new years.  Only thing I know there is alcohol, music, dancing, etc, so not allowed going.

SO IT SUCKS THAT I CAN'T GO.

Secondly although earlier I did temporary marriage/relationship (mutal nikah) with this person, however I realized she is a fornicator through out her life, which Quran forbids any form of marriage to up until they repent and change their ways.

SO IT SUCKS THAT I CAN'T YOU KNOW NOW.

If I could convince myself Islam is not true, I would. I would really. LOOK AT WHAT I'M MISSING OUT ON. But I know it to be true and can't go against my knowledge, and cover it up.


SHE HAS BLUE EYES. BLUE EYES. PRETTY. 

But at least I'm going to see her tomorrow.

There certainly ARE non religious SECULAR reasons you don't do certain things. 

I did lots of stupid things as a teen and young adult looking back at it now that could have gotten me into trouble. Sex I had that could have gotten my partner pregnant, I was lucky. But none of that risk taking was do to a cosmic hero and a cosmic arch rival battling over the neurons in my head.

It is ok to drink in moderation. It is not ok to drink and drive or get so drunk you hurt property or other people. It is ok to have sex with consent and if you are worried about disease get tested and use condoms. Oral and anal sex count regardless of sexuality.

The morality of old books of myth are not objective. They may act as a deterrent, but not in any real sense. They make moral claims as arbitrary "do as I say", which is just dictating, having nothing to do with understanding reality as it is.

You won't burn in hell if you drink or have sex. You can get arrested for drunk driving and destruction of property or assault if drunk, even when not drunk, still not ok to assault others. You wont burn in hell if you have sex outside of marriage. You will get arrested if you rape someone or have sex with someone under age, even with consent. 

Mind you, this is not an attack on you, or one religion or one holy book. This is a statement that our species morality, when we do good OR BAD, it is coming from us.