do any of you think im to young

[thesummerqueen]

IFTFY (I Fixed That For You).

I'd like to just point out that it is this sort of casual conversation that ends up making girls neurotic: men assure them "Oh, no, we LIKE the extra padding! You're beautiful!" and then off-handedly drop what amounts to a bomb - that woman (whoever the woman whose body that is) is far more able to wear a bikini than I, yet she's said to have chubby legs. What amounts to chubby then? "I (the generalized I) must be positively fat. If she is being critiqued in such a way...how are the rest of us being critiqued?"

I would kill to be able to wear a bikini like that woman. And to be quite honest, I think the chubby thighs comment was profoundly unfair. There's nothing wrong with her legs. Unless it was merely because it was Sarah Palin, in which case we might have just seen proof that personality affects hotness factors.

Back to the topic at hand - when I was bat mitzvahed at 12, I was told that meant I was (traditionally) able to participate in the adult aspects of Judaism and must learn how to be a woman. If you want to know the truth, the feeling that you are ready to begin accepting adult roles really didn't hit until around 18, when I wanted nothing more than to be out of school, earning money and taking care of myself. It certainly wasn't at 12. Back when lifespans were shorter and lives were necessarily harder by circumstance, maybe you could have made a case for 16...but we can afford to coddle our children longer (and that's not necessarily a bad thing).

You can argue the legality of it all you want - the question wasn't "can I?", it was "do you think I'm too young?" (or rather 'to young')

There could be things in Josh's past that made him grow up emotionally or mentally a little bit faster than his peers - there certainly was in mine. However, those things still didn't make me capable of handling a relationship with a 37 year old man at that age. I understand I am not Josh....but I remember what it was like at that age being more mature than most of the kids around me. I remember the feelings and thoughts my friends told me. None of us were able to handle that.

And if you say you want a real relationship with someone, you have to be able to find common ground for discussion - eventually you have to talk, right? That's what would be implied by "I love him and he loves me": something a little more than just the mattress rumba. I find it extremely unlikely that such an age difference would have a hell of a lot to discuss in a 'meeting of the minds' sort of fashion. I do find it incredibly suspect that the man would think a 16 year old would be a suitable partner - if that is what he's looking for and not just a fuck-toy.

[shrugs] This is coming from someone who has to mentally be able to connect up with whoever she's fucking, so maybe I'm biased about the whole thing. But he asked opinions and we gave them. If he still goes and does it and everything is hunky dory and he doesn't feel the worse for the experience... huzzah! If he does and gets emotionally and mentally and physically screwed...can't say we didn't warn him. He can take it or leave it.