Parents not taking there crying child outside at a restaurant or store

[Joods]

I'm not suggesting they leave their kid in the car. I just don't see why people feel so much need to take their baby to a restaurant, for the reasons I said. It's not like the baby can enjoy it when they can't eat properly and are unable to even process what is going on yet.

Not even saying they "can't" bring their kid to a restaurant either, I'm just saying I don't understand why you would.

So, what I'm hearing is that as long as parents have a kid under a certain age, they shouldn't be allowed to go out as a family to spend tine together and eat or shop because those who don't have kids feel so entitled that they should be allowed to eat and shop without having little brats around?

Get this: you (as in the general use of the word and not anyone specifically here posting) cannot possibly step into the shoes of a parent if you, yourself aren't one, so any compassion or empathy from you isn't likely to happen. What if the child has Autism and all is going well until the server brings the food and the order for the autistic child is wrong? I've been in that situation and unfortunately you can't just snap your fingers and expect a child like that to just accept the wrong food. It doesn't work that way and it isn't that simple. No amount of consoling will work. The night isn't just ruined for you, but to that child, in that moment, their entire world just crashed because their brains are wired completely different than ours. It takes a lot more than five minutes to calm a child like that down.

Yes, there are times when parents need to step up and do what they can to help their child out, but it isn't always as cut and dry as some here would like for it to be. Life just doesn't always work that way. Especially for a child who has special needs that you can't physically see. Instead of assuming the family should be kicked out, how about tactfully going over and offering to help. Maybe it is a single mother with more than one kid and she can't split herself in two to tend to the one having the meltdown. Maybe if store employees would be more proactive in offering help instead of standing around being all judgy, then when these things happen, the problem could get resolved quickly.

You get more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. Perhaps trying a different approach instead of bitching about a kid who may or may not have a mental problem would be better. I'm sure the parent would love the help instead of having people talk badly about their child.