(May 22, 2016 at 9:27 pm)Organic Machine Wrote:(May 22, 2016 at 7:54 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: So ask her out for coffee or dinner. This allows y'all to chat without being involved with the other patrons.
I was shy with the gals younger myself, and I do still get butterflies asking one out, but at some point you gotta make the jump. "No" comes with the territory. If it happens, move on down the road, y'know?
Yea, I'm really shy when it comes to this. She seems to have pursued me a bit though so that's a good sign. I'm ok with no. Not worried about that. Based on what I know about her she doesn't seem to do much because she doesn't really know many people here. I just find it hard to initiate because I'm so skeptical and sort of pessimistic about it. I know my type is a needle in a haystack so it's hard for me to get past thinking what's the point.
(May 22, 2016 at 8:17 pm)energizer bunny Wrote: No, i don't think that would be my issue. I have an indifferent attitude about dating hence i don't go out of my way to find dates. I'm also very quite and reserved. Even if a women displays interest in me they often won't get more then just a smile and a thank you. I don't really consider this an issue as i very much enjoy my aloneness but also remain open to the possibility of dating. I just often question whether now would be a good time as i'm more focused on my own personal dreams and desires at the moment.
I sort of know what you mean. The first 30 years of my life I never really seemed to have anyone interested in me. As a young adult I was overweight, never had any confidence and was painfully shy with women. In my 30's though I've lost a bunch of weight and had two relationships now so I have a bit of confidence. Not much though. I also know my type is extremely rare so I find it hard to initiate.
The answer is already "no" if you don't ask. Nothing to lose.
