Dating as an atheist.

[Organic Machine]

Yea, I'm really shy when it comes to this. She seems to have pursued me a bit though so that's a good sign. I'm ok with no. Not worried about that. Based on what I know about her she doesn't seem to do much because she doesn't really know many people here. I just find it hard to initiate because I'm so skeptical and sort of pessimistic about it. I know my type is a needle in a haystack so it's hard for me to get past thinking what's the point.

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I sort of know what you mean. The first 30 years of my life I never really seemed to have anyone interested in me. As a young adult I was overweight, never had any confidence and was painfully shy with women. In my 30's though I've lost a bunch of weight and had two relationships now so I have a bit of confidence. Not much though. I also know my type is extremely rare so I find it hard to initiate.

The answer is already "no" if you don't ask. Nothing to lose.

Very true. I just don't really have any expectations about someone being my type because I know that my type is rare. I like dating sites because a lot of my concerns are addressed by simply reading someone's profile. I sort of don't even want to bother initiating something unless I know that they don't ever want kids because I definitely don't ever want kids and I know that's a deal breaker.