Dating as an atheist.

[Rhondazvous]

Don't know exactly what you are asking. Atheism simply means not believing in god. That says nothing else about the person.

Still, a Christian might date you in the hopes of proselytizing you. that's a set up for mutual disappointment.

It's not because I don't think they can't be a good person or anything like that. It's just that we would hold incredibly different worldviews. Like I said, mutual beliefs and interests are important to me. I don't relate to most people so I'd like to relate to a partner as much as possible.

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Not really, myself, unless she's overly religious, in which case I wouldn't ask her out anyway. I wouldn't discuss religion, or my lack of faith, on the first two or three dates myself ... I would focus on common interests and simply having a good time.

Your first several dates, at the very least, will almost never be stay-at-home anyway, and angling for that is a good way to give a woman pause. Shoot for social or outdoor dates where you're with others (not as a group, just around others) until your relationship starts growing legs. Take your time, and don't get spun out on one gal -- crushes are natural when you're younger but they sure can tie your emotions into knots.

Go slow and take it easy. Confidence is the big attractor, so I'm told.

I wish I was that kind of person. I'm very introverted and don't do things where the main intention is to be social. It can be draining. I'm also not that young. I'm 34. I just don't have much experience with actual dating. I'm pretty bad at this sort of thing because my only two relationships have not been traditional. One was long distance with a year before we first met, the other happened out of nowhere and moved incredibly fast.

Right now, I have an attractive neighbor that I'm pretty sure is showing interest in me. One of the things she said in passing was that she noticed my bumper stickers, which I guess you could say are pretty indicative of my lack of belief, she said she thought I'd be a cool person. I know she's single too. We hung out last night but with someone else that she knew there. Time will tell I guess. I just don't know if I'm feeling it. I worry that she's almost too.... normal. As ridiculous as that sounds.

Remember what Christopher Hitchens said, every person you meet is a mammal. Normal doesn't mean perfect. Or like my mother told me, 9 times out of 10 the people you think you have to impress will be too busy trying to impress you to be impressed by you.

I doubt if I'd do very well in the traditional dating scene either. My hearing impairment would make communication different than what might be considered "normal," and I'd be quite impatient with someone who's sitting there sizing me up for something I cannot control. If I wanted to "find somebody" it would be in a no pressure setting and he would already show me that he is cool and thinks I'm cool before we start "dating."