Take some fucking responsibility!

[Wyrd of Gawd]

The comment was "I was married to a guy who raped me pretty frequently over several years until I finally got out of there."

So yes, she was a willing participant.

So...there is no such thing as an abusive relationship?  No woman (or man) has ever stayed with an abusive, controlling partner out of fear for their life?  Noone has ever had their children, their safety, their family, or their livelihood held over there heads in order to keep them complacent?  It can take victims years to gather the emotional fortitude to leave their abuser.  Probably longer for those who don't have the support of friends and family.

 So to summarize: Because it took Losty some time to figure out how to save herself, she somehow deserved it?  Or, by your logic, was not ever being abused in the first place?  Hammy is right.  Your logic sucks, but your empathy is practically non-existent...

Here's a tidbit for your consideration:

"Sometimes for the victim there is also a sense of familiarity and comfort in an abusive relationship, which is why victims will often return to an abusive relationship or, leaving one, will unconsciously seek out another."
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/enl...ationships

As a side note, the problem with ratting one's self out on a thread is that it distracts from the original subject.  The poster should have started a separate thread about her experiences and we wouldn't have gone down the rabbit hole on this one.