Love the Lord your God with all your heart ?

[ApeNotKillApe]

You're expected also to live in constant fear of this being while loving it and singing its praises. It's the kind of love you have for the local tyrannical dictator; adoration by ultimatum.

This resonates with me, as someone who was raised by a very violent and abusive Mother.  I was required to call her "Ma'am", kiss her goodnight, and say "I love you".  Of course, I knew that if I didn't, I would get my head put through the nearest wall.  Did I want her to love me?  Oh yes.  And I desperately wanted to not have to be afraid anymore.  That never happened.
     It strikes me as much the same with the god concept.  Sure, you're supposed to praise because you have been "saved" from the ultimate eternal torture.  (Similar to "Yay, she didn't hit me today.")  But there is this constant message of being born FILTHY and sinful, the constant fear of being truly unworthy and disobedient, and the constant begging for forgiveness and promises to do better.

You're worthless, the only thing that makes you not worthless is ME, and you if you don't obey me every second I may have to torture you forever no matter what you say. 

It also sounds a lot like an abusive husband.  

I've before made the comparison between the relationship with God and an abusive household. The abuser in the scenario is a cold and indifferent world, the victim is a fragile and ignorant primate species who's flawed brains project agency where there is none.
The world strikes the primates with unrelenting hardship: plagues, disasters, pain, death, for centuries without warning or explanation, and the primates reacts as many victims of abuse do, they come to excuse and even defend the actions of the abuser, convince themselves that the abuser knows best and that they must have deserved the punishment they got, and if they just did as they were supposed to, then they wouldn't be hurt. Problem is, this abuser is an unthinking cosmos that the primitive apes have mistaken for an angry parent.