Church demands the victim apologize to pastor's wife since the pastor did the rape.

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I'm not putting the onus only on her, and can imagine, that it may be more difficult for the wife to make amends.  Also from what the church said, they didn't require anything.  I don't think it is about blame.

The thing is, the church is putting the onus on her. Why should a victim of molestation be urged to make amends by the agency that employed her molester?

The church's denial was issued to the press, not a court. The mother's accusation that the church required amends was made under oath in a court. I'd put more stock in the latter, both because it was sworn testimony, and because I've seen too often how shitty churches can treat people who stand up to abuse under the rubric of faith.