How the fuck is there a statute of limitations for rape in New York?

[Drich]

why because I approach you without pity and a ounce of discernment? That I have the audacity to dare look at the situation rather than the individual? Is this not a discussion? If one of your buddies gives you a cookie cutter answer, do you really need everyone to pat you on the bottom and tell you everything is going to be ok? Have you shut yourself down to looking at anything anyone has to say that is not nurturing???

This is what happens when a nation grows up without Fathers. Use to be a balance was struck with a child between the nurture a mother gave, and the walk it off/let's do the next logical thing a true father gave.

Now if we are not 100% nurture all you can see is a monster.

Look as I said. If you want to be a victim the rest of your life then simply continue down the path your on. Seek consul only from those who pity you and offer condolences. Don't ever seek to move past what happen only seek to forget it till someone mentions the word rape in a way you don't want to hear it and then force yourself to relive it.

See to me, someone who has endured and work with people who had much much worse happen to them over a much longer period of time. Those of you who force people to only be victims are the true monsters. Because it is possible to detach from an incident like this and not have it define who you are. It can become just another event in your life. adding to your character not controlling it.

But hey what do I know.. just continue to do the easy what 'feels' or seems right/less pain avenue...

I don't think anyone here was fishing for pity or "victim-nurturing", or whatever, Drich.  We were merely discussing how the trauma sexual assault differs from other physical traumas, and the very real emotional/psychological reasons women (and men, and children) have for being afraid to come forward because of the nature of that particular category of trauma.  No one is encouraging anyone to remain a victim.  No one was even implying it's a "good idea" to stay silent.  No one was insinuating they let their rape define who they are.  We were simply explaining to you how and why your laughably ridiculous assertion: "if a woman doesn't report it, it didn't happen," is demonstrably false.  

But...you'll jump at any opportunity to demean someone from your self-appointed high horse.  Keep blindly swinging that iron fist around buddy.  We're all used to it by now.  

So in the eyes of the law...

Let say a rape happens but the SoL Expires...

What is the difference between what happens to a man who raped the woman and a man who had consensual sex with her in that expired time frame??

So again if the SoL Expires and a rape is not reported then in the eyes of the law it is no different than consensual sex.

Because Nothing Happens...

Now if you take that concept and plug it back into the original context from which you plucked it, I advocate that a rape victim be compelled to report their attacker if for no other reason than to keep someone else from going through that very same thing.

This begins to shift the same and guilt off of the individual who was attacked and if stepped through the process begins the cycle of re-enpowerment. In that the victim becomes the aggressor/disruptor of lives.

The alternative allows you (someone who hears the story) an easy out by pilling on the pity, never mind pity just feeds the self loathing, it's what you want.. a juicy tidbit no responsibility the chance to dump on someone who says your system of dealing with grief is flawed.

People who have been dealt this hand need options aside from being drown in pity by well meaning lookie lous.