How the fuck is there a statute of limitations for rape in New York?
October 15, 2016 at 10:30 am
(This post was last modified: October 15, 2016 at 12:03 pm by LadyForCamus.)
@Drich -
I want to make sure I'm explaining myself clearly to you here. As I said before, if you wanted to come into this thread advocating for women to report sexual assaults when they happen, I am behind you on that. I wouldn't even be personally offended by your callous, "tough love" approach in advocating for that position. If you came in and said something along the lines of, "listen ladies: I know it's scary and painful, but you need to grow some vagina lips and stand up for yourselves, and for future victims," I'd probably be put-off by your lack of sensitivity, but...I agree with you. I know I said some off the cuff comments out of emotion earlier, but I DO think it's critical that women report assaults as soon as possible.
The problem in what you said was your patently false assertion that women who don't report their assaults weren't actually assaulted. It's your failure to acknowledge the factual inaccuracy you put forth regarding the nature sexual assault trauma that is bothersome to me.
Implying that someone is weak, or a baby, or just plain morally wrong for not coming forward is certainly insensitive, but at least you are acknowledging that the allegation of non-consensual sex could potentially be TRUE, despite how you judge the individual's response to the trauma (and despite whether or not it's provable in a court of law). Denying the existence of very real reasons people don't come forward is just willfully ignorant on your part. Do you understand the difference here?
I want to make sure I'm explaining myself clearly to you here. As I said before, if you wanted to come into this thread advocating for women to report sexual assaults when they happen, I am behind you on that. I wouldn't even be personally offended by your callous, "tough love" approach in advocating for that position. If you came in and said something along the lines of, "listen ladies: I know it's scary and painful, but you need to grow some vagina lips and stand up for yourselves, and for future victims," I'd probably be put-off by your lack of sensitivity, but...I agree with you. I know I said some off the cuff comments out of emotion earlier, but I DO think it's critical that women report assaults as soon as possible.
The problem in what you said was your patently false assertion that women who don't report their assaults weren't actually assaulted. It's your failure to acknowledge the factual inaccuracy you put forth regarding the nature sexual assault trauma that is bothersome to me.
Implying that someone is weak, or a baby, or just plain morally wrong for not coming forward is certainly insensitive, but at least you are acknowledging that the allegation of non-consensual sex could potentially be TRUE, despite how you judge the individual's response to the trauma (and despite whether or not it's provable in a court of law). Denying the existence of very real reasons people don't come forward is just willfully ignorant on your part. Do you understand the difference here?
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