How the fuck is there a statute of limitations for rape in New York?

[Catholic_Lady]

Could it be that because you (apparently) lack compassion, you just can't recognize it in other people?

No, this is not an inability to identify compassion as "compassion" was option "b". I see what you label compassion and further identified with pity. which was the reason for the post. i want to know what makes what i see as pity being labeled as compassion.

If their isn't a difference, then I have explained why I feel compassion so long after the attack can be counter productive.

Again everything in it's place. There is a time for pity and compassion but to decades after the fact UNLESS The individual intended on being a perpetual victim.

What I've said several times now is I have indeed made allowances for someone who intends to be a victim all their life. However the focus of my efforts is to make that person aware that they do NOT have to subscriber to perpetual victim hood even though all polite society is willing to offer is misplaced pity.

Again simply providing an alternative. So when someone like CL provides a contrasting example It makes me wonder why she would offer "pity" so long after the attack or if she saw compassion in a different way.

Yes, it was a long time ago that Mermaid claimed to have been raped. But some scars run so deep that they stay with the person forever. The death of a child is one of them. My husband's cousin died in a motorcycle accident a while back ago. His dad (husband's uncle) was talking to us about it and he said that even though it happened 7 years ago, it still hurts like it was yesterday. I imagine a rape to be so traumatizing that it would leave similar life long scars.

To still feel hurt and effected by a traumatic experience from years before does not mean the person is playing the victim, or trying to stay a victim. Nor does it mean it is counterproductive of us to feel for them in regards to what they went through and are still effected by. I know you probably feel like I'm "analyzing" you too much and it's probably super annoying, but I think this may be part of your cold headedness and lack of ability to really connect with other people.