RE: How the fuck is there a statute of limitations for rape in New York?
October 17, 2016 at 4:41 pm
(October 17, 2016 at 4:08 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Yes, it was a long time ago that Mermaid claimed to have been raped. But some scars run so deep that they stay with the person forever. The death of a child is one of them. My husband's cousin died in a motorcycle accident a while back ago. His dad (husband's uncle) was talking to us about it and he said that even though it happened 7 years ago, it still hurts like it was yesterday. I imagine a rape to be so traumatizing that it would leave similar life long scars.
To still feel hurt and effected by a traumatic experience from years before does not mean the person is playing the victim, or trying to stay a victim. Nor does it mean it is counterproductive of us to feel for them in regards to what they went through and are still effected by. I know you probably feel like I'm "analyzing" you too much and it's probably super annoying, but I think this may be part of your cold headedness and lack of ability to really connect with other people.
Some wounds never really scar over. Sometimes we simply have to not look at them and pack them away instead.
Then, you get someone like this guy who insists on blaming you for your own suffering.
Me, I don't dwell on past heartaches and violations ... but I know that for a couple of them, the trauma is made fresh again. I can only imagine how much moreso it would be if I had some Internet Asshole telling me it was my own fault.
