(October 18, 2016 at 11:52 am)Shell B Wrote: No, it's not easy, especially if you have panic, depression or other high emotional states. I'm not very good at it yet, either, but I think it's a pretty awesome concept.
I also do the comparing thing. In fact, my therapist said it was a good thing because I mentioned that I was feeling bad about looking at people and thinking "at least it's not that bad." I felt like I was being mean to them.
I know what you mean. I used to compare myself others like that, and it made me feel terrible. I felt like my life was worthless if I wasn't doing something to help people that were worse off than me, but I realized that was having a negative effect on my mental health. I finally had to accept that the world is such a clusterfuck that you can't save everyone, and you have to focus on the things within reach instead of holding yourself to some sort of idealistic, unattainable standard.
It's just a terrible fact that part of coping with life is accepting that much of the world is a giant shithole.
Even if the open windows of science at first make us shiver after the cozy indoor warmth of traditional humanizing myths, in the end the fresh air brings vigor, and the great spaces have a splendor of their own - Bertrand Russell
