How the fuck is there a statute of limitations for rape in New York?

[Drich]

But again, in order for actionable response to any alleged crime, one must report it.

If you don't then as I said it is like it never happened.

My Emoji was meant to illecite a negative response. Why? because if you took any or all of those excuses to any cop 5 years after the fact, I'm sure you'd get a Catholic Lady's response to your report, but in the end what the emoji is doing is all your going to get in the way of 'justice.'

Now ask yourself what is better if you are 4 years and 360 days in from being raped yourself... Being mad at me for telling you that your rights/legal recourse you had are about to be flushed in a way that makes you uncomfortable.. Or would it be better if i just took my turn in line to offer you pity so that you could continue being a silent victim and find out 10 years down the line when you finally feel ready to do or say something that my emoji truly represents what can be done for you.

Could I have done it more tactfully?

Yes..

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But it's not like it "never happened" for the victim.  That's my entire point.  It's like you have a blind spot for empathy.  Look, I understand what you're saying:  telling a woman that it will essentially be like her assault never happened in the eyes of the law if she fails to report it within the SOL set by her state.  A motivator.  I see that.  But, I don't get why you think that a simple acknowledgment of someone's pain is encouraging them to hold a victim mentality.  It seems like, to you, saying "I'm sorry that you were hurt" is as offensive as taking the lord's name in vain.

Because I am not a believer in perpetual victim hood. There is a time to mourn and a time to grieve, which again is ultimately up to the victim to set a limit on, but approaching the 5 year mark/SOL someone needs a push or kick in the pants IF they are ever to be anything more than a perpetual victim.

Which again is fine if that is what they need to do. However forever victims also need to know the rest of the world is going to move on with or without them. That is where the reality of  what I said comes in. The Law/Justice will turn a blind eye to you and the terrible thing that happened, if you do not act. What I said is a kind of focused litmus test. If what I said bring out the acid then you know something inside you does not want to be a victim forever then that means you must act/My comment becomes a call to arms. If you roll over into yourself and have to 'relive' everything again then you know you want to be a forever victim.. If that is the case then in a sick way what I said only furthers that person's end goal.

Look at the response everyone gave when I acted harshly.. A virtual pity parade was thrown, if it's been 15/20 since the act, then all the fussing and 'nurturing' that went on was well received.

Again I know the pain. I also know the sickness that one creates for themselves being or thinking of themselves as a victim, and I am well aware of what needs to happen inorder for that cycle to be broken.